10 Reasons Why Women Don’t Admit to Watching Porn

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Have you ever wondered why a woman that thrives in the hidden realm of porn-watching doesn’t admit to it? I’ve uncovered the truth behind the denial.

In today’s society, it seems as if it is becoming more and more common for women to watch porn. But is it really? Maybe it’s just more common for women to admit to watching it, particularly if they mention that they only watch the “artsy” or “sensual” type of porn.

Although this may be true, there is still an incredible amount of women who feel the need to conceal their porn watching ways. Most men watch porn on a regular basis. And most men know that women do, too. So why the denial?

Whether we’re embarrassed, afraid of judgement, or just want to keep it to ourselves, we’re out of luck because men know that we women watch porn. They know, and yet they still can’t figure out why we deny it over and over again. Take it from a gal that’s been watching porn for about as long as her male counterparts – we do it. But up until recently, I’ve denied it. Sometimes, I still do deny it, and I’m not always sure why.

So, what did I do? I sat myself down and did some self-reflecting. I even got the help of a few close girlfriends that I know who watch it too. [Read: 10 good reasons why women should watch porn]

Why women deny watching porn

We’ve compiled a list of all the different reasons why some women feel the need to keep their porn watching habits in lockdown mode. Many of my male friends and even my ex-boyfriends have questioned me about his time and time again. So I’ve decided to not only shut them up, but also shed some light on this seemingly never-ending mystery.

#1 It’s still considered taboo. While watching porn may be lightening up when it comes to just how “wrong” it is to society, there are still people who consider this extremely taboo. But for some reason, it’s more wrong for women to watch it than for men. Yay for double standards!

So, we don’t tell anyone. No girl wants to be viewed as someone who engages in something that’s considered taboo. We don’t want the label that is associated with watching porn. [Read: 25 common porn myths that people still believe]

#2 We’re embarrassed. This stems from watching porn being considered taboo. It’s not something that women are “supposed” to be doing – in a traditional sense. So we get embarrassed for people to know that we do watch it.

We’re also embarrassed because viewing porn kind of goes hand in hand with masturbation and being perverse, particularly if we go into the specifics of what kind of porn we watch. Many people still think that the type of porn you watch is the type of sex that you want to be having. That’s not always true.

#3 It’s considered unladylike. We’re girls! We’re not supposed to eat too much, have short hair, burp in public, have hair in certain places, or watch porn <insert dramatic eye roll at society’s unrealistic expectations>.

Society’s stereotype of women being only a certain way – that way being their preconceived perception of “proper” – has hindered a woman’s freedom of expression. We feel that if we step outside of that ladylike image, people will view us as impure and undesirable.

#4 We fear the judgment. “Oh my gosh! She watches porn? She must be promiscuous. Ew!” Believe it or not, this is the reaction from a lot of girls who find out that other girls watch porn. But really, they probably watch it too!

Not only are we fearful of judgement from other girls, but what about the men? If they find out we like to watch two strangers grinding their genitals together, most of their minds immediately start thinking that we must put out easily – a thought no girl wants any guy to be thinking of them. [Read: 5 ways to deal with judgmental people]

#5 Privacy. Some women may not even care about what society thinks *just as no one should*. For them, it’s more about their own privacy.

What women do behind closed doors can stay behind closed doors if they so choose. They may just keep it to themselves because it’s like their own little guilty pleasure *literally*. You don’t see every exhausted mother who purges on snickers bars she has hidden in her underwear drawer telling the world about it afterwards, do you?

#6 We think that it could give people the wrong impression of us. Most of the time, porn is associated with being perverted or sexually preoccupied. Once people know you watch porn, they think you do it every chance you get.

For men, this isn’t too much of a problem. After all, the porn industry revolves mostly around men, and them watching it is considered normal. For women, however, it can make people think that she’s so in touch with her sexuality that she may border on sexual deviance.

#7 To keep their downstairs a mystery. If I tell one of my guy friends that I watch porn, he immediately asks me if I masturbate. They also will ask what kind of videos I like best and many more questions that are just too personal.

If a woman responds honestly to men’s questions about her porn habits, this gives the men an inside look into a world that we just think should be kept to ourselves or to our significant others. Women like to keep their privates and what they do with their privates a secret from men. Men will then be more intrigued with a woman if they have to use their imagination.

#8 Because other women don’t admit to it. Didn’t your Mamma ever ask you, “Well, if your friends jumped off a bridge, would you, too?” This is basically the same thing. Peer pressure, that is.

Nobody likes to feel like they’re really different. So if one woman says she doesn’t watch porn because “that’s gross,” or “it’s a guy thing,” then chances are, neither will the other. This leads to a never-ending chain reactions of girls just hiding the truth about them viewing other people having sex on screen. [Read: What kind of porn do most women enjoy?]

#9 Umm… Do I even know you? If I don’t know you that well, there’s no way I’m going to admit to something that risqué. I don’t even see men walking up to strangers and telling them who their favorite porn star is. Okay, so maybe that did actually happen to me at a party one time.

But that does not mean that I’m going to just stroll up to a group of people I don’t know and openly tell them of my extracurricular activities that involve videos of people doing the dirty. Admitting it to some friends is one thing, but openly telling people about it in a casual conversation may seem like a poor attempt at seduction.

#10 We just don’t want you to know. Sometimes, there’s really no reason in particular. Watching strangers getting down and dirty for someone else’s viewing pleasure just isn’t something that other people need to know you do. And that’s perfectly fine! Everyone has secrets, and some women prefer to keep this as one of theirs.

[Read: 13 non-porn erotic movies that are sure to turn you on]

Each woman has her own reason for keeping quiet about her porn watching ways. So if a woman tells you she doesn’t watch it, just accept that answer, and don’t question her further.

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  1. Gladys says:

    We may be in the age of advancement and yet some things remain to be a “taboo” and one of that is that girl should not be watching porn. Come to think of it, there is a double standard here. While it is alright for men to watch it but it is not alright for women. Reality wise, both men and women are watching it. Me and my friends both men and women were watching it too. It’s a matter of being open-minded. And besides watching it will add up to our knowledge not to mention adding to our pleasure. I am frequently watching it and no way will I tell it to anyone except to my close girl/boyfriends.

  2. AngryInAustin says:

    Know why I don’t watch porn? Because it destroys the whole idea of intimacy! I’m totally up for the ideas that guys like in porn: the moaning, the moves, and the makeup, but I’ll be damned if I’m going to become someone’s perfect little bimbo just because it’s what they see in their private folders on their computers. If a guy is going to get all of that out of me, then he has to make me feel special. Sex is about love and you don’t get that from a computer monitor. More power to the girls who do and if that’s your thing, but it isn’t mine.

  3. vvrigin says:

    I’m a woman and I only admit that I watch porn to my husband. We have been married for 5 years and the only way we improve our sex life is by watching porn together and we learn lots of moves in bed just by watching porn. The amateur videos that try some hardcore shit really turn us on the most because they look so innocent doing it and at the same time they are learning to do it as well. I really think that porn is so under rated by most people and I really think it should be legalized for minors as well so that they could learn some moves while they are young and to also improve their performances in bed later on in life. They have to learn at an early age so that they won’t be discriminated on when they grow up to be losers with no sex drive at all. We have to teach our children that porn is good for you and it enhances the mind’s creativity. I can understand why they block and ban child porn in most countries and I agree on that too. That doesn’t mean the children can’t have sex privately, I mean. You done it when you were 13, right? What’s really the difference between a 10 year old and a 13 year old other than the are 3 years apart from each other? They are still both minors and to not let the 10 year old have sex but the 13 year old can privately? That’s just unfair. Most of us have lost our virginity way before we were legal and some others even younger. I have had a friend who was raped by her father at the age of 5 and she has been having sex with her boy playmates every since she was 8. Awesome, right? It’s has everything to do with perspective and how you perceive things in your life. It’s no secret that porn is private and only is legal for 18 years old and above people but c’mon. Give the minors a chance to live their own life and have sex without the taboo.

  4. Teena says:

    I am really embarrassed to admit that I watch porn because I really have to say that it should be a guy thing but sometimes I just need something that would better help me get off. I really think that we as women should be more vocal of our sexual desires and because we have that society taboo, where women who admit they watch porn as perverted girls, we really need to be more considerate. We’re human too and we all have temptations. If men can jack off t porn, so can women and it only makes it fair, really. I really think that we as women should form a group that admits that we all watch porn and love watching it. We get off to it too loke men but it takes us a longer time. Guys have admitted to get off in 30 seconds. Can you imagine that? I get off in about 10-20 minutes or so and yea, it takes a long time. You have to imagine the amount of free time I must have and the length of the porn I have to watch to get me off. Normal pron nowadays only last like about 8-10 minutes and if it’s really good, I can get off to it but if I don’t really feel it, I have to watch a 20 minute porn or 2 porn videos with 10 minutes of length each. It’s hard being a girl who watches porn but what am I to do? I’m getting this out there and women shouldn’t be ashamed anymore. I have been ashamed for too long and I want a change in my life. Women, unite and free yourselves!

  5. PRon says:

    I watch porn. I watch straight, lesbian, gay, incest, whatever. I watched transexual, but it didn’t do anything for me. I’m pretty vanilla with my porn, the worst being some slight bondage and/or dirty talk. I watch porn to get off, and sometimes just because I can. I watch it by myself, and I watch it with my boyfriend. My friends know I watch it, because we’re all comfortable around each other to be able to discuss things like this without being immature (normally, we still joke about it sometimes).

  6. Venessa K says:

    Women don’t admit to it because they honestly don’t watch it.Men need to know this.Porn is disgusting and so is sex.We women want nothing to do with either of those things.Ok.Got it?You guys enjoy porn and fine,whatever,but we do not.You masturbate,we do not.Think about this for a second guys.What is the point of watching porn if you had no sexual desire in the first place?If you were suddenly impotent then you wouldn’t want to watch it because there would be no point.That is what it is like for all women.We don’t desire sex and feel no sexual pleasure.We don’t masturbate and we can’t have an orgasm.Not a lot of women can be honest and say they don’t like sex and never have.Many of us are scared to hurt a mans feelings but eventually a guy has to learn that women don’t desire sex of any kind.Sorry men but it’s the truth.

  7. Dealwitit says:

    Your full shit and a liar, i guess you speak for all woman get a frigging life become a nun If that’s the way u feel.!! What rock did u crawl out from under Geezzzz some cunts

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