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Kinky Girl: What Make a Woman One, 30 Hot Traits & Sexy Things to Try with Her

Kinky women are exciting between the sheets! They’re keen to try new things and will encourage you to do the same. Do you have a kinky girl in your life?

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When you’re dating a kinky girl, it’s important to try new things and push your boundaries in the bedroom – only if you’re comfortable, of course! There are countless types of sex fantasies you can try, so why not be brave and try something different? You never know, you might find a brand new sex routine!

It’s no secret that kinky women are no strangers to trying new things and they’re the best ones to go on a new kinky adventure with!

If you’re a guy who wants to date kinky girls, you need to remember that these women aren’t looking for vanilla sex. They want passion, spice, and flavor in the bedroom.

Can you blame them? Not at all.

Sex isn’t supposed to be serious and uptight – it’s supposed to be fun, naughty, and filled with laughter and experimentation. As long as everyone involved is happy and consenting, there’s nothing to worry about! [Read: Top 50 kinky sex ideas worth trying at least once in your lifetime]

Why do we have a curiosity about kink?

Let’s be honest, everyone has a bit of a fascination with anything a little kinky. Why? Because it’s considered “taboo” and those kinds of things make us want to learn more. It might not mean you want to indulge in them per se, but you can’t help but be curious to learn more. The human mind works in mysterious ways!

Kink doesn’t have to be anything extreme. It can be as simple as role play or dirty talk. Of course, there are some more extreme versions, but you can customize kink to suit your needs and your comfort level.

When you meet kinky girls, you’re probably fascinated with how free and keen to try things they are. It’s normal to be pretty taken with that. It doesn’t necessarily mean you want to share their kinky adventures, but hey, maybe you do! [Read: How to be kinky – steamy tips to explore outside of normal sex]

What is a kinky woman?

The actual definition of kinky is, “Involving or giving to unusual sexual behavior.” Basically, a kinky woman is someone who enjoys weird and unusual sexual acts.

Kinky women like experiencing new and wild things in bed that normal people may think are just too much out of their comfort zone to try. That said, kinky sex can range from mild to extreme, and everything in between.

Unexpected qualities kinky women will surprise you with

Now, some may think that kinky women have wild and outrageous qualities all the time, just like they do in bed. But the truth is, most kinky women don’t act like they do in the bedroom when they’re out in public.

They might even have qualities that would shock you into falling for them. These are the qualities kinky women have that might surprise you and make you think twice before judging a person by the way they bang.

1. They’re confident

All kinky women hold a confidence that is almost untouchable. They feel so good about themselves that when they finally get the chance to take it all off and show you what they have, they do so in the best and kinkiest ways.

This confidence also makes them very secure women who won’t be jealous or petty about silly things, either. [Read: High value woman – 20 traits that make men respect & be in awe of her]

2. They care about how you feel

Kinky women aren’t selfish by any means. This isn’t just true in the bedroom, either. They care about how you feel in all aspects of your relationship.

Not only do they want to please you in bed, which adds to their kinkiness, but they also want to make sure you’re genuinely happy in all aspects of your life. They’ll go out of their way to make sure you are pleased in every way possible. [Read: Sweet and intimate ways to show how much you care]

3. They’re very respectful

Sometimes, the most respectful and seemingly conservative women are the kinkiest of all. Kinky women really understand respect and can translate that into every aspect of their lives.

They have to respect themselves in order to put themselves out there sexually, and by doing so, they learn how to respect others just as much.

4. They like to experiment with everything

Whether it’s a new language or a new food, they’re game to try it—just like with sex. These women get bored very easily and need to be entertained with something new and exciting at every turn.

And that’s not just about sex, either. Just as adventurous as they are in the bedroom, kinky women are usually adventurous in their everyday lives, too. You’ll most likely find that kinky women are the type that likes to travel and see the world.

5. They’re usually very nice

The biggest misconception is that kinky women are mean, rude, and only want sex all the time. The truth is, though, that some of the kinkiest women you’ll ever have the pleasure of knowing are also some of the kindest women out there.

They’re so nice because they’re happy with who they are. That confidence they carry around with them radiates to every part of their life and allows them to be happy and therefore kind to others. [Read: Tips to be nice and loved by all instantly]

6. They’re very unique

Kinky women usually aren’t like every other girl out there. Their unique taste in sex is almost as individualized as they are. The more time you spend with them, the more you’ll understand just how special they are.

They usually have very different views about sex, life, and even the world in general. This is because kinky women are very open in their opinions.

7. They’re usually very athletic

After all, those kinky sex positions do require some flexibility and muscle strength, right? Kinky women often work hard in the gym to have a rockin’ body that’s ready for the kind of sex that they really like. This also adds to their confidence by having an incredible body that they can be proud of. [Read: 30 day sex challenge – 30 sex positions for 30 days]

8. They may be timid outside of the bedroom

Some kinky women are nearly the opposite outside of the bedroom than they are when they’ve torn your clothes off. It’s like sex opens up a secret compartment in their personalities that allows them to really shine.

Kinky women thrive in the bedroom, and that’s where they can let their personalities let loose and show you who they are. They can be timid in public, though, and their kinkiness can be their secret. [Read: 15 effortlessly sexy role-play ideas for the shy]

9. They’re usually well put together

Have you ever heard the saying, “A lady in the streets, but a freak in the sheets”? This is exactly what kinky women are like. They’re very ladylike and have their lives put together completely.

They’re financially stable, they have a great home, and they just look well-groomed almost all of the time. This is quite the opposite of what the stereotype of kinky women typically is.

10. They’re typically very emotionally stable

This one may come as most surprising to many. You have to be a very emotionally stable person to allow yourself to open up so much during sex.

Kinky women get really vulnerable during sex when they try new things, and they have to be very emotionally put together in order to actually relax and have fun. [Read: 

Fun things to enjoy with kinky girls

You’re only alive once, so you might as well have fun while you can!

So, if you’re a guy who has no idea what to do with kinky girls and you’ve just met one you really like, don’t worry. We have some ideas to help you get introduced into the realm of kinkiness, so you can explore and enjoy together. [Read: How to make your girlfriend happy and feel like the luckiest girl ever]

1. Use restraints

If you want to try giving up control to your partner by allowing her to surprise you with what she’s going to do next, restraints are the way forward.

Restraints essentially come in different levels. In the beginning, we recommend using light restraints, nothing too serious for testing out the boundaries of what you both like.

You can bring in handcuffs, rope, shackles – kinky girls will have no problem cuffing their man to the bed and making him moan in delight. [Read: 20 new things to try in bed at least once with your lover]

2. Spankings

Many women love being spanked, well, not to the point where they’re bleeding. Okay, some do. But if the woman asks to be spanked, the man should start at a gentle level and increase it slowly.

Guys, don’t be scared to grab her ass and spank her. Kinky girls usually let their man know that they want to be spanked, and also let him know how hard to go. Of course, it might be that she wants to spank you – how do you feel about that?

3. Bring out the toys

Kinky girls love experimenting with sex toys, and you totally should try as many toys as you like. And as a kinky girl, she’ll probably already have a couple of toys such as dildos, vibrators, strap-ons, whips, anal beads, butt plugs, collars, the list goes on and on. [Read: Must-have couples sex toys for naughty first timers]

4. Use your teeth

She’s not a steak, but she might like being nibbled on. Remember to nibble. She won’t want bruises all over her face from the guy eating her like it’s his last supper.

If you bite your girl, you’ll most certainly get her aroused and chase after you for more. But, be careful not to leave a mark – especially as many people hate hickeys since they tend to make questions arise when you go to work or out and about the next day!

5. Choking

Choking is something that kinky girls often like. Of course, that doesn’t mean you really squeeze her neck, but the feeling of a hand on her neck might turn her on.

If she asks you to do this, you want to make sure you’re not choking her too hard unless she wants your grip to be firmer. If she’s thrashing around and grabbing you… Perhaps ease up on your grip, let’s not make her unconscious.

But usually, kinky girls love being choked – it’s not as taboo as it sounds, but it definitely involves a lot of trust between the couple. [Read: How to be a freak in the sheets without being creepy]

6. Wrestling

There’s something very arousing about play fighting with your partner. You’re pulling and pushing them, they’re pulling and pushing you, flipping you over, pinning you down as you’re struggling to break free.

It’s a great way to get into the mood and some slightly aggressive foreplay. Then you can incorporate choking, spitting, and punishing, if you both want to, of course. [Read: 15 dirty ways to have the sexiest rough sex ever!]

7. Sensory deprivation

This is all about blocking out one of your main five senses, which will heighten your other senses and increase arousal.

You can be blindfolded or blindfold her, use earplugs to block out the sound, wear gloves to block off touch, etc. You can start easy and then increase the blocking of multiple senses. It’s pretty hot and arousing. [Read: Blindfold sex – sensual ways to use blindfolds in bed]

8. Master/slave interactions

Master/slave is basically when one person is dominant and the other is submissive. The slave will adhere to all the commands of the master. These commands usually start gently, such as to worship the master’s body, kiss their feet, and show them your ass.

Then they can increase in kinkiness, for example, striptease for master, stick your ass in the air, crawl on master, etc. Of course, before doing this, you’ll need to sit down with your partner and create rules and boundaries. [Read: How to set the rules of a master-slave relationship and follow them]

9. Public sex

Have sex at the drive-in theater or while waiting in the doctor’s office – that’s kinky. The fact that not only are you doing it in a public place but you also have a very high chance of being caught is what makes it exciting.

If you want to be caught, you’re already kinky. So, why not just go the extra step and try it out?

Just make sure that you don’t go out of your way to get caught because that could lead to an extremely embarrassing encounter and possible arrest in some cases! [Read: The 20 best and hottest places for outdoor sex]

10. Gags

No, not the funny kind. You’ve probably heard of gagging thanks to 50 Shades of Grey, and aside from this film, it’s actually very popular amongst kinky girls.

Gagging is kind of like sensory deprivation because it prevents you from speaking. You’ll definitely need to have some sort of safety word/action and agree to the boundaries of how far you’ll go while gagging or being gagged. [Read: Couples kinks list – 52 freaky and weird sexual fetishes many people indulge in]

11. Add another one to the mix

Have a threesome. Just find someone that you both are attracted to but aren’t friends with and have a threesome. It’ll be an experience you won’t forget.

It’s pretty kinky and also a lot of fun. Not everyone is into this idea and some people try it and vow never to do it again, but you could be amongst the many who really love it! [Read: The threesome invite – how to make the amazing happen]

12. Who doesn’t like food?

Have you seen the scene in 9 ½ Weeks with Mickey Rourke and Kim Basinger? Okay, well, if not, we don’t want to spoil anything, but it involves a fridge and sex – so, watch it. Don’t underestimate the power of food.

Honey, whipped cream, strawberries, chocolate – you can basically hit up all the food groups. Kinky girls are more than willing to play with food – licking honey or chocolate off of the man’s chest, chewing a strawberry out of his mouth, or licking whipped cream off of the inner thigh.

13. Anal sex

Many women are nervous to try anal sex because of the negative connotation around the subject. However, kinky girls already know everything about anal sex and are more than willing to give it a try. [Read: She likes anal sex? 15 tips to easily impress a girl who likes the backdoor]

14. Pegging

It might also be that she wants to try pegging, basically anal sex but she dons a strapon and goes to town on your ass. Some guys are intrigued, others are horrified. It’s up to you how you feel about it, but do bear in mind that the anal orgasm can be pretty amazing for a man. [Read: Pegging and all the backdoor facts to get you started]

15. Watch porn together

Watching porn is incredibly arousing, so why not watch porn with your partner? Have you seen some of the things they do on film?

So when you’re with a kinky girl, don’t be scared to ask if she wants to watch porn with you – she probably does.

16. Find a new place to cum

Yes, that’s right, you just read that. We don’t know what type of contraception you’re using *please use some*, but the guy doesn’t have to cum in a tissue or in a condom if there’s a kinky girl in the room.

The guy can try out – consensually, of course – new places on her body to cum. There’s probably someplace that really turns her on. For some kinky girls, it’s the face, over her breasts, or in/on her ass. It depends on whether she thinks it’s a good way to finish off with a bang. [Read: Girls who swallow and all they reasons why they’re truly the best girlfriends ever]

17. Roleplay

Sitting at the bar and a mysterious stranger sits beside you, asking what your name is. Sure, it may be your kinky girl, but for now, it’s a Russian girl here for one night on a business trip. She slips you a napkin with her room number on it.

No, that’s not the opening to some Hollywood film. That, my friend, is your Friday night. If there’s a kinky girl in the room, she’ll have no problem developing some storyline that’ll get everyone in character.

This is a great opportunity to have sex with someone *completely new* but still the same person deep within. [Read: Naughty sex games for couples to feel really horny all over again]

18. Get it on film

Film you and your partner having sex, with consent, of course. It won’t end up online if you trust your partner, but it’s a fun way to get turned on. It’s interesting and sexy to see what you look like when you’re having sex. This will totally turn on kinky girls.

19. Group sex

If you’re thinking about having a threesome or already tried it, why not throw another person into the mix? Group sex is not only kinky, but it’s a great way to experiment and experience sex with other people while still having sex with your partner.

If you’re not the kinky one in the relationship, you may be a little hesitant to give it a try. However, sit down and talk to your kinkier half and she’ll help you through it. [Read: Really wild and crazy sex parties you can have at your own place]

20. Bring on the pee

Okay, most people probably squirmed in their seats reading this one, but many people are into the golden shower. It’s definitely best to discuss this one before having sex.

Kinky girls will probably be down for it, but, it may come as a shock when all of a sudden the guy is peeing on her or vice versa. Mention this before sex and just test the waters – oh, that was a good pun.

Always use a safe word

When you’re with kinky girls and they’re suggesting all sorts of fun stuff to try, it’s important to settle on a safe word beforehand.

That means if either of you feels overwhelmed, uncomfortable, or simply wants to stop, you can say the word and everything quickly ends.

The idea is that you can explore kink safely with the knowledge that if it becomes too much, you just say the word and you’re golden. It’s a reassuring thing and allows you to totally throw yourself into kinky fun as a result. 

[Read: The full guide to help you open up about your kinky side and explore your naughty side]

Kinky women are not meant to be tamed, they have to let their energy out! So, try out these various activities if you’re dating a kinky girl.

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Vinod Srinivas Serai
Vin Serai
Vin Serai is the founder of LovePanky.com, and has delved deep into the working of love and relationships for almost two decades. Having dipped his feet in almo...