Law of Attraction and How It Can Change Your Love Life

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Many say that the law of attraction is a surefire way to get you everything you’ve dreamed of, including the love of your life. But how does it work?

The law of attraction (LOA) has been around for a while, and some say it has existed for centuries. Today, however, it’s been gaining a lot of attention because of the best-selling books The Secret by Rhonda Byrne and The Lost Symbol by Dan Brown.

The concept is not new, in the sense that we’ve all been advised to bring ourselves good luck and good tidings through the power of positivity. The idea is pretty simple: Thinking about what you want can bring it toward you. In other words, what you put out into the world is what you pull toward yourself.

Is there truth to it? Many say there isn’t, but a lot of people are investing their time and money into the idea that it truly works. The catch is that it should be done responsibly, by grounding yourself and avoiding the delusional backlash that it could cause.

Still, we can take comfort in the fact that every bit of knowledge out there about the law of attraction is tied to one thing: positivity. Let’s see how you can work that to your advantage, in terms of your relationships.

How to use LOA for your relationships

We can’t swear on our childhood pets’ graves that the law of attraction works, because each and every one of us has a firm stance on what is true and not true in terms of science, the paranormal, and religious beliefs. But here are some things to consider before using the law of attraction.

#1 There’s no assurance that you can get exactly what you want.

#2 It probably won’t work if you’re skeptical about it.

#3 Ignore what skeptics are saying because practicing LOA can also be good for you.

#4 Don’t try to LOA things you can’t control, like how people think or how you will receive what you ask for. It never works. Seriously.

#5 Don’t be a skeptic, but also don’t invest too much into LOA. The basic principle is to be positive and let things run their course.

LOA for your love life

There are some steps you can follow to attract your one true love! Just keep these steps in mind, and we’re positive that you will find a way to be with the person who is meant for you. [Read: Love at first sight – The real truth behind it]

#1 Consider what you want in a partner. List down your nonnegotiable traits. Make sure they are realistic, like financially stable, but not filthy rich, or someone you’re sexually attracted to, but not Channing Tatum. He’s married. Don’t be vague, but also don’t be specific about things that you don’t believe will come to you.

#2 Be ready for a partner. Set your life up to be ready for a partner. To help you understand this better, we’ve come up with a few examples:

a. If you’re too busy to date, make some time for yourself so that you can be ready when a partner comes. While your partner’s not there yet, use it to do something you’ve always wanted like a cooking class or a drive along the countryside. [Read: 10 ways the perpetually busy can still find love]

b. Save some room in your closet for your future partner’s stuff. Don’t renovate your walk-in. Just get rid of the things you don’t need and throw them away or give them to charity.

c. Clean your place up. If you want a partner, your home should be ready to welcome any and all suitors.

d. Set a time for some self-introspection. Change your bad habits and assess yourself if you’re the type of person who is ready for love. Are you messy? That’s always a deal-breaker. Are you insecure? Those types of people find it difficult to find love. Ask yourself if you’re the best person you can be, but always remember not to change yourself for anyone else but yourself. [Read: 18 bad habits that can make any partner leave you for good]

#3 Be open. Stop setting unbreakable limitations on yourself. Stop saying that you’re not attractive enough. Stop saying that there aren’t enough men or women around. Stop saying that you’re not in a position to find love. How can love find you when you’ve set yourself up to fail without knowing if what you’re thinking is true or not? Get out there, get rid of all these limitations, and start opening up to the world.

Exercises that can improve your LOA game

Applying the law of attraction in your life can benefit you, not because of the power it yields, but because of the positive effects of the exercises that are being taught. It only takes a few minutes to perform these exercises, and we’re pretty sure that you can get the most out of them, even if you don’t get exactly what you’re looking for.

#1 Write down everything you want in a partner. As we’ve said before, write down traits that exist in the world. So please don’t ask for a prince with vampiric powers.

#2 Write down the kind of dates you want. Imagining what types of dates you’ll be having is a good way to give you a positive outlook about what you want to happen in your relationship. Remember, make sure you believe that it’s possible. Don’t ask for a ride on a dragon, if you don’t believe that it’s possible. [Read: 20 personality traits that make the ideal type of guy]

#3 Write down what kind of partner you want to be. You can’t have a dream partner if you’re not a dream partner either. Imagine what you would do for your partner in order to make them happy, without compromising your own needs. No matter what you think is the best way to approach a relationship, stick to it and write it down.

#4 Write down everything good about yourself. Aside from knowing what kind of partner you want to be, you also have to think about what kind of person you are and whether you need to make some changes. Are you a good person? Are your personality flaws hurting other people? Check to see if you’re good enough for yourself, before you decide that you’re good enough for anyone else. [Read: 15 things that make you a nice person who’s loved by everyone]

#5 Internalize everything. Do not just write it all down and put it in a wish jar. Continue to check your list and see if things change from time to time. The purpose of this is to learn what works and what doesn’t. The law of attraction is helping you get what you want, but things can change, so make sure that you’re updating your list regularly.

The last and most important step

After all is said and done, you have to take note of the most important step when practicing the law of attraction: Live your life. [Read: How to be happy and life your life to the fullest]

There’s no point in focusing all your energy on thinking about something, when you’re failing to catch the opportunities that would have led you to your desire. The law of attraction is designed to give you what you want, but it’s up to you to take it.

Don’t just sit there and imagine having good things or having the perfect partner. Continue to live your life and wait for your destiny to arrive. The law of attraction is working to make that happen, so your only job is to live day to day, knowing that good things are coming your way.

[Read: How to find love using the secret law of attraction]

If you think the law of attraction can work in your favor, try these tips and see if you can attract the person of your dreams and the life that you’ve always wished for.

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3 thoughts on “Law of Attraction and How It Can Change Your Love Life”

  1. beliefs says:

    It’s true that whatever you think in your mind it has an effect in your life. That’s why a positive person would always get the positive things in life and the jelly nellies who always brings negativity also attracts it in their lives. That’s why they are all so bitter. I know this handicapped guy and iwhe always thinks something is going to go wrong and it always does. You know why? It’s all in your mind. What you believe in your mind the universe will conspire to make it happen for you, no matter if it’s positive or negative. The universe is not bias and that’s why it is very important to think positive every single day and not let negativity make you down because in the end you can get rid of negativity by thinking anything positive and really believing it will happen. I just love how I can just imagine something and the universe conspires to make it happen for me. I’ve had so many accomplishments in my life and I always believed in myself and I followed up with hard work as well because I’m super positive. I’ve never had anything wrong make me think negative, at least not permanently.

  2. Maydorn says:

    I love the law of attraction and I use it on a daily basis. Basically, I just think of something really bad and put my self in the position to really attain my dream, it just happens. It wouldn’t happen right away of course, but it always happens and I really love the law of attraction. Basically, what you think is what you achieve. It makes sense because if you really want something, you would really work hard for it and it would really make an impact on attaining that certain goal. I made a goal to be more fit for the coming year and I lost 50 lbs in 3 months. Isn’t that awesome? All it took is the belief that I will achieve it and I worked hard for it. If you think negatively, obviously it would turn out the way you think as well. It wouldn’t go the opposite way because, again, what you think is what you achieve. If you think you are going to trip on that wire the next time you pass it. You will really trip because you wanted it to happen because you thought of it and you convinced yourself. It’s like this, if you really want to win the lottery you have to have zero doubts that you are going to win, or else it doesn’t work. The universe will conspire to get you what you really want and all you have to do is believe and try to achieve it. Believe and work for it. It will not happen over night, you know, success, but it will happen very soon if you consistently believe in yourself. I don this all the time and all that has come to my life is good because I believe in the good of life. I don’t hate anyone and I always make sure to spread the love because you always get more love back if you give a lot. It’s awesome and I wish everyone could live the life I’m living right now. I can get what I want and all I have to do is believe in it and work hard for it. I help others too, don’t get me wrong. Most of my goals are for them, so it would really work more often if you do things because of other people rather than your own self. It’s selfish to just think of yourself all the time and the universe will think that you are selfish and just give you nothing of what you want. Even if you don’t think you’re selfish but the universe thinks otherwise, you will experience severe punishment from the universe. All that you worked so hard for will be put to waste if you don’t really share what you have. The universe can help you but the universe can also destroy you. Choose you thoughts wisely and may the odds be ever in your favor. Welcome to the 78th hunger games! Nahh, I’m just joking guys, you know, about the hunger games thing. It’s all in your head, so believe it and you will achieve it. Goodbye for now.

  3. PEETA says:

    I’m still very much a newbie when it comes to Law of attraction, so please take this with a grain of salt. As I understand it, you can only control/change your own vibrations and frequency. That is not to say that you can’t influence another’s, but you cannot change it. I could be totally wrong on this of course. Law of attraction aside, change (or the desire to want to) is an internal decision. Change done for any external pressures or reasons will not last. I don’t wish to pee in anyone’s Cheerios, but usually if a relationship ended, there is a reason for it. I think letting go of the fear of it not working out, the hurt of the ended relationship or the vibration of desperation is the best place to start.

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