Many say that the law of attraction is a surefire way to get you everything you’ve dreamed of, including the love of your life. But how does it work?
The law of attraction (LOA) has been around for a while, and some say it has existed for centuries. Today, however, it’s been gaining a lot of attention because of the best-selling books The Secret by Rhonda Byrne and The Lost Symbol by Dan Brown.
The concept is not new, in the sense that we’ve all been advised to bring ourselves good luck and good tidings through the power of positivity. The idea is pretty simple: Thinking about what you want can bring it toward you. In other words, what you put out into the world is what you pull toward yourself.
Is there truth to it? Many say there isn’t, but a lot of people are investing their time and money into the idea that it truly works. The catch is that it should be done responsibly, by grounding yourself and avoiding the delusional backlash that it could cause.
Still, we can take comfort in the fact that every bit of knowledge out there about the law of attraction is tied to one thing: positivity. Let’s see how you can work that to your advantage, in terms of your relationships.
How to use LOA for your relationships
We can’t swear on our childhood pets’ graves that the law of attraction works, because each and every one of us has a firm stance on what is true and not true in terms of science, the paranormal, and religious beliefs. But here are some things to consider before using the law of attraction.
#1 There’s no assurance that you can get exactly what you want.
#2 It probably won’t work if you’re skeptical about it.
#3 Ignore what skeptics are saying because practicing LOA can also be good for you.
#4 Don’t try to LOA things you can’t control, like how people think or how you will receive what you ask for. It never works. Seriously.
#5 Don’t be a skeptic, but also don’t invest too much into LOA. The basic principle is to be positive and let things run their course.
LOA for your love life
There are some steps you can follow to attract your one true love! Just keep these steps in mind, and we’re positive that you will find a way to be with the person who is meant for you. [Read: Love at first sight – The real truth behind it]
#1 Consider what you want in a partner. List down your nonnegotiable traits. Make sure they are realistic, like financially stable, but not filthy rich, or someone you’re sexually attracted to, but not Channing Tatum. He’s married. Don’t be vague, but also don’t be specific about things that you don’t believe will come to you.
#2 Be ready for a partner. Set your life up to be ready for a partner. To help you understand this better, we’ve come up with a few examples:
a. If you’re too busy to date, make some time for yourself so that you can be ready when a partner comes. While your partner’s not there yet, use it to do something you’ve always wanted like a cooking class or a drive along the countryside. [Read: 10 ways the perpetually busy can still find love]
b. Save some room in your closet for your future partner’s stuff. Don’t renovate your walk-in. Just get rid of the things you don’t need and throw them away or give them to charity.
c. Clean your place up. If you want a partner, your home should be ready to welcome any and all suitors.
d. Set a time for some self-introspection. Change your bad habits and assess yourself if you’re the type of person who is ready for love. Are you messy? That’s always a deal-breaker. Are you insecure? Those types of people find it difficult to find love. Ask yourself if you’re the best person you can be, but always remember not to change yourself for anyone else but yourself. [Read: 18 bad habits that can make any partner leave you for good]
#3 Be open. Stop setting unbreakable limitations on yourself. Stop saying that you’re not attractive enough. Stop saying that there aren’t enough men or women around. Stop saying that you’re not in a position to find love. How can love find you when you’ve set yourself up to fail without knowing if what you’re thinking is true or not? Get out there, get rid of all these limitations, and start opening up to the world.
Exercises that can improve your LOA game
Applying the law of attraction in your life can benefit you, not because of the power it yields, but because of the positive effects of the exercises that are being taught. It only takes a few minutes to perform these exercises, and we’re pretty sure that you can get the most out of them, even if you don’t get exactly what you’re looking for.
#1 Write down everything you want in a partner. As we’ve said before, write down traits that exist in the world. So please don’t ask for a prince with vampiric powers.
#2 Write down the kind of dates you want. Imagining what types of dates you’ll be having is a good way to give you a positive outlook about what you want to happen in your relationship. Remember, make sure you believe that it’s possible. Don’t ask for a ride on a dragon, if you don’t believe that it’s possible. [Read: 20 personality traits that make the ideal type of guy]
#3 Write down what kind of partner you want to be. You can’t have a dream partner if you’re not a dream partner either. Imagine what you would do for your partner in order to make them happy, without compromising your own needs. No matter what you think is the best way to approach a relationship, stick to it and write it down.
#4 Write down everything good about yourself. Aside from knowing what kind of partner you want to be, you also have to think about what kind of person you are and whether you need to make some changes. Are you a good person? Are your personality flaws hurting other people? Check to see if you’re good enough for yourself, before you decide that you’re good enough for anyone else. [Read: 15 things that make you a nice person who’s loved by everyone]
#5 Internalize everything. Do not just write it all down and put it in a wish jar. Continue to check your list and see if things change from time to time. The purpose of this is to learn what works and what doesn’t. The law of attraction is helping you get what you want, but things can change, so make sure that you’re updating your list regularly.
There’s no point in focusing all your energy on thinking about something, when you’re failing to catch the opportunities that would have led you to your desire. The law of attraction is designed to give you what you want, but it’s up to you to take it.
Don’t just sit there and imagine having good things or having the perfect partner. Continue to live your life and wait for your destiny to arrive. The law of attraction is working to make that happen, so your only job is to live day to day, knowing that good things are coming your way.