Does your crush like you? It’s easy to know the answer to this, but what really matters is what you need to do next to keep them interested in you!
Having a crush can be one of the most nerve-wracking, yet rewarding things there is. You spend so much time wrapped up in what they’re doing, and what they’re interested in, and imagining the two of you together.
But what happens if they actually DO like you back? This is something that everyone wishes would happen but are completely unprepared for when it actually becomes a reality. The other crazy thing is that your next steps after realizing that your crush likes you back are VITAL for the relationship progressing. [Read: 28 hush-hush signs to know if your crush seriously likes you back too]
So does your crush like you?
One thing that makes crushes so darn hard is that it’s really difficult to tell if they like you back. They might talk to you and say hi, but you never know if they’re just being friendly or if they secretly have a crush on you, too.
One way to tell if they like you back is if they’re initiating the conversation the most. When they go out of their way to come up to you and strike up a conversation, it’s likely that they have a crush on you. Another way to tell is if you ever catch them staring at you. That’s a huge giveaway that they like you! [Read: 15 ways to tell if someone likes you without asking them straight]
What to do next
Congratulations! You’ve just discovered that your crush FOR SURE likes you back. Either they told you, or their friend told you, and now the ball is in your court to make the next move. But what do you do?
If you’ve just wandered into the fortunate reality of having your crush like you back, then you have to make a move before they think you don’t like them and move on. This is what you should do next when your crush finally likes you back.
#1 Confirm that you’re into them, too. If you just heard that your crush likes you back, your first move has got to be telling them that you also like them. If you don’t do this, they may get really nervous and just bail and avoid you. Smile shyly and say something like, “finally!” It’s cute and funny, and they’ll feel calm afterwards. [Read: How to talk to your crush and make them fall hard for you]
#2 Get their phone number! It would be completely silly not to get your crush’s number now that you both like each other. Just tell them you’d like to get to know them better and then go for it! Then make sure to text them and keep in touch.
#3 Talk to them in person more. Texting is a perfectly fine form of communication, but it can be too easy to hide behind your phone if you don’t know how to act around them in person.
So when you see them in person, go over and talk to them. Strike up a conversation from one of the topics that you were texting about, and let the in-person communication begin. This can help you relax around them and just be yourself.
#4 Get your flirt on! You like them, they like you, so what’s stopping you from flirting up a STORM?! Flirting is a great way to further the attraction and the relationship so don’t be shy! Go up to them and get your flirt on, and you’ll see how well your chemistry matches up with theirs. [Read: 15 obvious signs of flirting between a guy and a girl]
#5 Get to know as much about them as you can. Just don’t make it seem like they’re in an interview when they’re talking to you. Before you really go on a first date, try to get to know them as best you can beforehand. This can help you think of topics for conversation and even decide if you truly like them or if your crush was just based on their looks.
#6 Ask them on a date! Now that you know you like this person for real, go ahead and ask them on a date. Just say that while you enjoy their texts and whatnot, you’d like to hang out on a more personal level, and you’re interested in going out on a date. If they like you like they should, and they’ll be ecstatic about it!
#7 Practice some great conversation starters. If there’s one thing that can make a date go south fast, it’s bad conversation – or even no conversation at all. Before the date, make sure you’re practicing some great conversation starters to keep the date interesting and fun. [Read: 20 ways to perfect your first date conversation]
#8 Figure out a great date night idea. Don’t just settle on dinner and a movie. That’s boring and typical for a first date. You want to do something that will make them never forget the day.
If you take them on a date that’s more adventurous and gives them a little taste of adrenaline, they’re more likely to associate that exciting feeling with you and they’ll want more of it. [Read: Top 50 amazing first date ideas to wow your date]
#9 Relax. Before the big date, take some time to relax yourself. Go do something that is calming to you. Read a good book, take a bath with lavender, or just practice some deep breathing. Going into a date too nervous may cause you to sweat a ton and mess up on your conversation starters.
#10 Pick out a great outfit and smell amazing. Don’t slack on your outfit for this date. It’s an important one! Your crush has confirmed that they like you, but you want to make sure they’re blown out of the water by how amazing you are. [Read: 16 first date tips for guys to charm your date]
Find that outfit that makes you feel and look absolutely amazing and then put on some pleasant and subtle perfume or cologne that they’ll only be able to smell if they’re a foot away from you. Everyone likes a well-dressed, great-smelling person. [Read: 16 first date tips for girls to dazzle your date]
#11 Don’t bring up anything awkward. You already have some conversation prepared, but be sure that the conversation doesn’t stray into any awkward categories. Things to stay away from are your ex, relationships, and work. Nobody wants to talk about their job when they’re supposed to be on a great date, and hearing about exes can lead to some tense conversation.
#12 Make fun of them a little bit. This is a great way to flirt if you’re not sure how to get your flirt on with them on an actual date. Teasing them here and there is a perfect way to make light of the situation and help them see that you’ve got a fun personality.
#13 Initiate some innocent contact. I’m not saying to go grab their butt or anything like that! But just little touches here and there give them the sense that you enjoy being close to them. You can just shove them on the shoulder as a joke, or even grab their arm as you’re walking into a building, or if you’re walking around outside. [Read: The subtle art of flirting by touch and making your date fall for you]
#14 Let them ask you questions. Don’t just rattle off question after question before they get a chance to get to know you. Remember, this date is so your crush can get to know the real you. Give them an opportunity to ask you about your life, hobbies, and interests, too.
#15 Tell them you want to go out again! Don’t leave the date without telling them if you’re interested in a second one. If you’re not, just leave it at that. But if you do want to see them again and have another date, just tell them, “Next time, we should____,” and already plan your next date RIGHT THERE!
Knowing how to handle the reality of your crush actually liking you back can be a struggle for so many different reasons. If you’re lucky enough to get to stop asking, “does your crush like you back,” these steps will help you know what to do next.
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