Comments on: 25 Friends with Benefits Rules to Remember http://www.lovepanky.com/flirting-flings/wild-secrets/25-friends-with-benefits-rules Flirt. Tease. Fall in Love. Indulge in the finest reads on love, dating, self improvement, and a lot more. Mon, 27 Apr 2015 23:03:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.1.4 By: jennifer http://www.lovepanky.com/flirting-flings/wild-secrets/25-friends-with-benefits-rules#comment-5503821 Sun, 15 Mar 2015 19:53:39 +0000 http://www.lovepanky.com/?p=9670#comment-5503821 WTF is wrong with this society–sex should not be so casual. Morals have been lost.

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By: XYZ http://www.lovepanky.com/flirting-flings/wild-secrets/25-friends-with-benefits-rules#comment-5501554 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 23:12:18 +0000 http://www.lovepanky.com/?p=9670#comment-5501554 I am starting a FWB,it will be my first. It’s with someone I met on a trip and we’ve decided to pursue this relationship. I’m 19, he’s 24. I’m a virgin and I’m a little nervous , I don’t know if I should lolose my virginity in a FWB and also don’t we get attached to our first? What’s with that, what should I do? I am happy with the arrangement,but need advice

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By: Sandy http://www.lovepanky.com/flirting-flings/wild-secrets/25-friends-with-benefits-rules#comment-5501355 Sun, 18 Jan 2015 15:52:18 +0000 http://www.lovepanky.com/?p=9670#comment-5501355 LOL, after being in a NSA / FWB for a year now we have broken every rule and it’s causing us a lot of problems. I’ve now decided to call it quits and end the relationship. The last month has just been one long fight, must admit the make-up sex and angry sex was awesome, best in months.

If you are thinking of an NSA / FWB relationship stick to the rules to avoid heartbreak and a ugly break up in future. It’s about the sex and nothing else.

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By: Ashley http://www.lovepanky.com/flirting-flings/wild-secrets/25-friends-with-benefits-rules#comment-5501136 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 15:16:11 +0000 http://www.lovepanky.com/?p=9670#comment-5501136 I’ve been in a fwb relationship for about three months now. The bad part about this is that I am married. My husband does not show me any affection and I hardly see him anymore. When we are off work together he sits by the computer and plays his games or we argue all the time. We never have sex because he can’t get it up even though he is only 30. I felt as if I could not satisfy him anymore. We talked about this on several occasions. He kept reassuring me that everything is fine and I shouldn’t worry. I never thought I would be the one doing this and I for some reason don’t feel ashamed?
This fwb is a coworker and he is a pretty new coworker. It started out with him coming up to me during our breaks and lunches and just carrying on conversations like we knew each-other. I was happy with him and he made me smile like it use to be back when my husband and I were dating. I ended up finding out his age and I was shocked to hear how old he was. He was so mature and looked older than he let on to be. I ended up not caring and decided to chat with him some more. He flirted with me and he told me how beautiful I was. I told him things about my husband and he didn’t like some of the things I told him.
On one of his days off we decided to meet in my car and go to the park or somewhere private. He ended up kissing me and then having sex with me romantically (way better than I ever had it). Afterwards I found out I was the first person he actually had full intercourse with. Now we’ve been doing it once a week or every other week. Every time I tell him we need to stop one of us starts it all over again. It gets better and better too. I think he’s falling for me and we know that there will never be a future for us. He’s just getting his life together and I’m married and coping with my situation. My husband knows something is up and he asked me a couple of times if I’m going to leave him. I tell him that he needs to get help. That we need to go to married counseling or something, but he will not go. It just seems like he doesn’t care anymore. This fwb guy somehow magical came into my life and fulfilled it, but it’s not a fairytale and we don’t always get happy endings. Someday this ending will hurt all three of us…until then i guess I’ll take whatever life throws at me and live day by day to the fullest.

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By: Lily http://www.lovepanky.com/flirting-flings/wild-secrets/25-friends-with-benefits-rules#comment-5500708 Thu, 01 Jan 2015 17:26:31 +0000 http://www.lovepanky.com/?p=9670#comment-5500708 This really helped. But I think I’m already falling for him. Not so sure how he feels. Its not my fault though. He keeps being sweet. We go out together, watch movies together at home. He rubs my tummy when its crampy, he gets upset when I make other plans, the way he looks at me…he kisses me on my forehead and always mentions the small things I do that makes him wanna be around me all the time. Its so confusing. Coz his Islam. His arranged to be married to a family friend’s daughter soon. For me to fall for him will hurt me, but the way he is being its as if it doesn’t matter. Like we’ll deal with it when we get there. I don’t know anymore. But thanks for the info.

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By: abcdefg http://www.lovepanky.com/flirting-flings/wild-secrets/25-friends-with-benefits-rules#comment-5500595 Sun, 28 Dec 2014 18:47:37 +0000 http://www.lovepanky.com/?p=9670#comment-5500595 I currently have this sort of situation going on now, been seeing somebody casually for the past few months and hate to say it I have developed feelings for this person.
It is a tricky situation because I still feel like he could be the one for me, we click so well, and both agreed at the start nothing else would come of the ‘relationship’, so I have two choices,
1. Carry on with FWB and have him close to me
or
2. End FWB and lose him
because we cant end what we have and remain friends now

This post is so helpful, wish I had read it sooner!

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By: Tulip http://www.lovepanky.com/flirting-flings/wild-secrets/25-friends-with-benefits-rules#comment-5500264 Thu, 18 Dec 2014 15:32:35 +0000 http://www.lovepanky.com/?p=9670#comment-5500264 This has just broken my heart so much! I cannot express how sad I am. But this was required, and I’m so glad this post has been put up.

Thanks!

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By: Meow http://www.lovepanky.com/flirting-flings/wild-secrets/25-friends-with-benefits-rules#comment-5497401 Sun, 19 Oct 2014 20:41:15 +0000 http://www.lovepanky.com/?p=9670#comment-5497401 I’ve been reading a bunch of these types of articles regarding FWB… I’ve noticed the consistency of all the “rules”… I agree with most of them and practice them well, I think, yet I often find myself in a situation where I observe that my partner does not, unfortunately. In addition, I am getting tired of reading the “girls need to protect themselves from getting a broken heart,” and becoming too “clingy.” This is so cliché!! Lots of woman are fully capable of having casual sex, no strings attached, and often the men are the ones who get all clingy, emotional, jealous, etc. I am a woman and often find myself in a friendship with a male where he ends up wanting to date me, or in a FWB situation where it is the guy who wants to cuddle, who wants more affection and the other relationship elements. Whenever I confront the guy on these things, he completely denies it, he says he is very happy with our arrangement and is happy and satisfied. My gut tells me different, and I feel claustrophobic and too “needed,” and it starts to make me feel guilty, obligated, responsible, annoyed… I suppose since I have already tried to discuss the issue but things didn’t change and he is still breaking the “rules” in my opinion, the alternative is to simply end it. This would protect his feelings from getting stronger when I know I will never return them, and it will protect me from dealing with this hassle. Am I being too black and white here? Why do I hesitate to break it off? Well, it’s a shame to do so when the sex is so good and the fundamental concept of the FWB is ideal in so many ways. In the past, I continued along with FWB dynamic, once having had the above “conversation,” convincing myself that “he said he’s fine! He’s not falling in love with me, he said so!” yet the same patterns keep on happening. Are there any other ways to keep the guy in line or do you just walk away? I don’t want to feel like this “bitch” or “selfish” when I say no to cuddling or don’t want to do something that seems more on the “date/relationship” line. It’s tiring to deal with that kind of expectation. I keep saying in my head, “I thought we were on the same page here! You said you were cool with this!” I guess someone can say all they want that they are okay with FWB situation with me but they could be lying to me or even to themselves in order to get something rather than nothing… Or is really okay with them and I just have serious commitment phob. issues and am being too sensitive…? I want it to be satisfying and easy with no drama and maintenance… I suppose in the end, the sex is not worth the frustration that comes along with a clingy partner. I welcome thoughts and advice…. thanks :)

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By: Mary http://www.lovepanky.com/flirting-flings/wild-secrets/25-friends-with-benefits-rules#comment-4834617 Wed, 13 Aug 2014 00:31:20 +0000 http://www.lovepanky.com/?p=9670#comment-4834617 Yes, I found myself in a FWB situation. I had know him for well over a year before we started to go to the Sunday matinee to watch all the top movies up for Oscars, as friends. We paid our own way and would meet at the theater. After a couple months, he kissed me one night after parting from a restaurant where we went for drinks/apps afterwards. We discussed what each was looking for, and he agreed he wanted the same as me, which was a long-term monogamous relationship. Well, after having sex a few times, he stated he wanted to have kids some day, all the while knowing that I already had 2 grown kids and no longer fertile.

We continued to see each other for a total of 6 months. he said we weren’t dating that we were only physically attracted to each other, he always put me second, never introduced me to friends, never told anyone he had been dating me, because according to him, we werent dating.

The final straw was when he refused to allow a pic of us on Facebook timeline,

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By: Craig http://www.lovepanky.com/flirting-flings/wild-secrets/25-friends-with-benefits-rules#comment-4701335 Sat, 26 Jul 2014 02:58:46 +0000 http://www.lovepanky.com/?p=9670#comment-4701335 I was in a fwb situation and it sucked for me. My problem was is that I was in love with her before we started the benefits and that was my fault. There were no ground rules to between us. We hung out every day before the benefits and then everyday after it started. She wanted me around all the time texting me and calling me I had no free time. When I tried to distance myself because of my feelings she got mad at me. It felt like a actual relationship which is what I really wanted and her actions to me signifies that it was a relationship even though she said it was friends with benefits from the start. I was afraid to lose her because now I was deeply in love with her. I got a text saying we should stop this because she didn’t want a relationship. I was heart broken and started writing letters to her to clear my head. I never sent the letters then one day I did and she finally knew I was in love with her. Now she is pissed at me and I lost one of my best friends. I tried telling her that her actions made me think it was different than fwb. She said you knew what you were getting into from the start. Lessons to be learned from this is don’t do it if you have feelings, and set some ground rules of how often you see each other. Dont cuddle after or spend the night either. You will end up heart broken like me. I am still trying to figure out why she needed me there all the time too. I will never do this again because of this situation that happened to me. Im not mad at her and I love her unconditionally. Theres a lot more to this story as well but to keep it short she said stuff to me like “I don’t want to leave you broken hearted” because she thought she was dying. Anyway she was very special to me because she really helped me out of a dark depression and she said that’s why she said that. She still lives and im broken hearted so i am confused there. Anyway listen to my advice from earlier and ddon’t do it with your best friend.

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