We’ve all heard the tips about lip biting when it comes to turning someone on. But why is this seemingly innocent maneuver so sexy? Science weighs in.
When it comes to attracting that hottie at the bar, lip biting is always one of the things many people suggest. It’s pretty common knowledge that this action is really sexy, but have you ever stopped to ask yourself why so many people suggest it?
Why is this really odd, random thing so attractive? The truth is, the science of why goes back many, many years. We’ll need to look at some specifics of human evolution to pinpoint why it’s a very flirty form of body language.
Flirting in general is mostly body language
Sure, you can flirt with your words and drop a really fun pickup line, but the bulk of your flirting always comes from your body. The way you stand, how you touch your hair, and even how far you lean into the person you’re talking to are all distinctive ways to actually flirt.
And guess what, they’re not always voluntary. Our bodies speak a language completely foreign to even us. Thankfully, there are a lot of scientists out there who have dedicated their lives to learning what our bodies mean when they do specific movements, which helps us learn an awful lot about flirting. [Read: 10 clear signs of body language attraction]
Why is lip biting so damn hot?
Contrary to popular belief, people who bit their lips aren’t only trying to show off how attracted to you they are. Others, however, interpret this form of body language as really sexy and even a turn on. Here are some reasons we find lip biting so erotic.
#1 It brings attention to the lips. One of the first thing you notice about someone you’re attracted to is their lips. You imagine yourself kissing them and that’s why they’re the center focus. Our bodies know this. They’re ready to show potential suitors that you’ve got some great smackers.
So lip biting just happens as a way of drawing attention to that spot. When you see someone you might like, you might subconsciously bite down on our bottom lip so their eyes immediately go there. This gets the wheels turning in their head. [Read: Lip biting and 29 other flirting tips for girls]
#2 It signifies a desire. Some of the most important things we do in life are with our mouths. For example, you eat and kiss with your mouth. And when you really start to desire something, your lips know it.
Biting down on your lip is not only a sign you want something, it’s also a way of your body suppressing those desires. This is why you see so many quiet or shy people biting down on their lips. They want to hold that desire back.
#3 Lips are very reactive. In general, your lips react very quickly to your surroundings and this isn’t just with someone attractive. If you’re stressed, uncomfortable, or unhappy, your lips will harden into a line and fold in on themselves.
Therefore, when someone bites their lips, it’s showing that they have a reaction to you. Your body sees this and immediately recognizes that it’s a good reaction. And that’s enough to turn us on. [Read: 12 science-backed clues that a guy likes you]
#4 It shows a suppression of feelings. People who want to hide what they’re thinking or feeling will often bite their lip because lip biting is a form of suppression. When we see this, it immediately makes us more curious as to what they’re hiding.
This curiosity can make someone seem far more appealing that we originally thought. There’s a reason mysterious people are always seen as hotter. Wanting to know more about someone makes them more attractive.
#5 It makes them look better. Everyone loves supple, rosy lips. Think about it. Would you rather press your lips to red, plump lips or thin, frail lips? Lip biting is a way of making your lips look more inviting.
It brings blood to the surface and shows the other person that you have something to offer. When the other person sees your lips becoming red and supple, they’re immediately more attracted to them and you. [Read: 13 physical attraction tips to look way hotter]
Other ways our bodies show we’re totally into someone
#1 Opening our legs toward them. I don’t mean this in the sense that you’re going around opening your legs at every person you find attractive. However, if you’re sitting down and someone you like comes near you, you’ll subconsciously open your legs slightly.
This is a form of body language that “opens” you to someone’s advances. Since it’s a more vulnerable stance, your body is basically submitting to them. Other people notice this and subconsciously pick up on it.
#2 Pointing our feet toward someone. When you like someone, you’ll naturally stand and sit facing them. Your entire body wants to see as much of them as possible and the only way to do that is to turn your whole body to face them. Giving your whole attention to someone is a huge flirting sign you might not try to do. [Read: Body language attraction for touchy feely flirting]
#3 Women sway their hips and stick out their chest. This is obviously something that can be controlled but women also do this without even realizing it. When scientists watched the posture of many women, they noticed that, when males were present, women’s hips swayed more and their chests rose.
#4 Fixing our hair. Have you ever seen a super hot person and immediately put a hand to your hair to pat it down and fix it? If so, you’re not alone. You may not do this consciously as a way of looking better, but your body does.
#5 Your eyes grow bigger. You really will hardly ever notice this unless an extremely attractive person walks by. You’ll realize you’re staring and immediately avert your eyes. But when you were staring, your eyes got a bit wider.
The widening of your eyes is a really big subconscious sign that you find someone attractive. It’s your body’s way of making sure you can view as much of them as possible by opening up your eyes really big.