If you want to grab their attention and make them see no one but you, enlist these 15 foolproof techniques to get your crush to start crushing on you.
I think it’s the dream of everyone out there to have their crush like them back. When I’m crushing on someone and I find out they actually have feelings for me, too, I get so excited that I basically do a backflip.
Most people are far too shy to approach their person of interest, chat them up, and hint that they like them; most of the time, when you have a crush on someone, it’s like you have a 20-ft barrier between the two of you, and you just wave from a distance.
Getting your crush to crush on you
I know that you’re probably sitting there thinking that there’s no way they can possibly like you because… well… they’re “perfect,” right? But that’s just because you’ve never had me walk you through exactly how to make it happen.
It’s not rocket science, people! Well… maybe it’s a little bit of a different kind of science, but mostly just being yourself and following these helpful, surefire ways to ignite that sought-after spark.
#1 Be yourself. Please don’t cringe or laugh at the cliché-ness that is this first point, because it is so vitally important. Too many people get around their crush and start acting like a completely different person. Why do they do this?!
#2 Be around. How can someone like you when you’re only watching them from a distance and they never have the opportunity to get to know you? Be around—wherever they are. Now, please note: this does not give you permission to stalk their life and show up out of the blue. I repeat: no stalking.
But if they’re going somewhere with a group of people and you’re invited—GO! Be there whenever you can, and they’ll take notice of this—and you.
#3 Talk to them! Again, with the creepy watching from a distance. Get up and go talk to them. They need to know who you are and talk to you from time to time in order to decide if they like you or not.
#4 Subtly show them you’re interested. Don’t make a huge spectacle of it, but drop subtle hints that you’re interested in them. A great way to do this is to make comments that suggest it. If they ask if you’ll be at a certain event, reply by saying, “Only if you’re going.” Perhaps add a sly smile to pique their interest.
This will show them that you want to be where they are and are uninterested in anyone else being around. As long as they’re there, you want to be there, too.
#5 Join in on their interests. If you’re invited to tag along on some fun hobby of theirs with a group, you’d better go! You should always join in on things that they find interesting and even take an interest in them, yourself—but only if it’s a genuine new interest.
It shows them that you can definitely kick it with them and their favorite hobbies—a very desirable trait in a potential partner.
#6 Dress to impress! You know, I can’t say there has ever been a time where a well-dressed person hasn’t made an impression on their crush. It definitely doesn’t do any harm! So, whenever you’re around your crush, make an effort to look your darn best. Just make sure not to overdo it or overdress for events. [Read: 13 physical attraction tips to look way hotter instantly]
#7 Let your personality out. Yes, your dorky, weird, awesome self has to come out of the overbearing shell you’ve got it trapped in if you really want to get your crush to like you. Your personality is what makes you likeable in the first place.
Surprisingly, those little quirks are what someone is going to like the most about you. So, let them out and don’t hold back if you really want your crush to start crushing on you.
#8 Don’t overthink it too much. Overthinking your every move, word, or text is going to hurt your chances, not help them. Let things happen naturally and take a deep breath. Relaxing and letting it flow how it should is a foolproof way to get your crush to like you.
Overthinking makes you nervous, tense, and choked up. Relax and let it be!
#9 Flirt. Flirt. Have I mentioned flirt? Yes! Get your flirt on! I am giving you permission to unleash the inner flirt master and get your crush to blush. Flirting is such a great way to not only let them know you’re interested, but to gauge their interest, as well.
#10 Prove your compatibility. Show them you can keep up with their life. Is the guy you’re crushing on a work-a-holic? Make time for him on his rare day off. If the girl you’re eyeing is passionate about environmental issues, discuss your willingness to “go green.” Without changing your personality, demonstrate that the two of you would make a fine pair.
#11 Make them jealous. Nothing brings out hidden feelings more than making someone jealous. A lot of people may not even realize they have feelings for you… until they feel jealous. It’s often the first emotion that’s present before they realize you’re special to them. [Read: How to make a guy jealous and get his attention in no time]
#12 Make friends with their friends. This part is crucial. If you want to get them to like you, start being friends with their friends. When you’ve got their friends talking about how awesome you are, they won’t be able to help themselves: they’ll start seeing you in a whole new light.
#13 Keep in touch with them. The best way to do this is to text them every now and then. Texting keeps the line of communication open, and you can learn a lot about someone—and they can learn a lot about you—when you keep in regular contact.
#14 Be fun! Have you ever seen someone having the best time of their life and thought, “Nah, I don’t want any part of that”? Probably not. Want to know why? Because EVERYONE wants to be in on the fun.
If you’re the source of that fun, they will want to be right there with you—all the time. When you make any situation more fun, they’ll crave your presence and this will, in turn, cause them to like you back.
#15 Be adventurous! Being shy and cute may work for some people, but being outgoing and adventurous is a much better way to get someone to like you. When you’re up for anything and ready to go at the drop of a hat, they’re going to look to you when they want to make plans with someone. Hello, alone time with your crush!
The key here is to be yourself and let things happen organically. However, adding in a few little tricks here and there will definitely heighten your odds when it comes to getting your crush to like you.
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Bella is a lifestyle writer, cheese enthusiast (Wisconsin native over here) and fantasy adventure author-in-progress who enjoys all things love, dog, p...