Nowadays, it’s becoming more and more important for you to be able to effectively flirt via messaging. Here’s how to flirt over text the right way.
Being able to pick someone up over texting is extremely important in the modern dating world. Back in the day, all you had to do was get someone’s number, call them, ask for a date, and get to know them while actually in person. Now, you have to know how to flirt over text in order to make someone want to date you.
It’s less about a first impression and more about how you come across when you’re texting someone. Because when someone thinks you’re attractive, their first instinct now is to ask for your number and get to know you via texting before ever asking you out. And if you can’t flirt, it’ll put them off.
The online dating world is actually making it more difficult for some people
Sure, online dating works for a lot of people. However, it can make dating a hell of a lot more difficult for others because they’re better at flirting in person. Some people suck at showing their affection and being playful online but the second you meet them, they’re super charming.
The problem is, if you’re meet someone online, you have to be great at flirting via texting before you can even hope to meet them. And that means if you’re not good at it, you need to learn how to flirt over text if you want to find love. [Read: How to flirt with a friend over text]
How to flirt over text and intrigue someone enough to ask you for a date
If you really want to get that hottie to go out with you, you’ll have to win them over via texting first. Once you make them like you over a phone, you’ll have a much easier time winning their heart in person. Here’s how to flirt over text and get their attention.
#1 Use some emojis. A texting conversation without emojis is a boring one. Not only that, but emojis add a ton of personality and make it a lot easier to flirt, especially if you suck at it yourself. Using a wink emoji or even just sending over some cute smiley faces will help with flirting an awful lot. [Read: Funny emojis couples need to use more often]
#2 Use GIFs. Another fantastic way to flirt is with GIFs. If you’re not familiar, they’re the images that actually have movement. They’re basically little snippets from movies or shows or viral videos.
The great thing about these is that you can send over much more accurate reactions to stuff. Since the person you’re texting can’t see our real facial expressions, GIFs are the next best bet to get your personality across. They’re also fantastic for sending over flirty messages, too.
#3 Talk about them. Ask them questions and actually work on getting to know them. Not only should you do this in order to see if you actually like them, but the more you know, the easier it’ll be to flirt with them. Not only that, but people also love talking about themselves. They’ll also see just how much you want to get to know them, which will work in your favor. [Read: 20 revealing questions to get to know someone better]
#4 DON’T be sexual. Avoid making sex jokes and being overly sexual in general. Although it’s an easy avenue for flirting, it’ll make you look like all you want is to get in their pants. It won’t go over well. Basically, just avoid all things sexual until you’re actually dating them and they know you want a lot more than just that.
#5 Give subtle compliments with a wink. Compliments are a very obvious way to show your affection for someone. However, if you shower them with all nice things, it’ll come across as desperate and a little needy.
Knowing how to flirt over text effectively means you need to know how to compliment someone the right way. Giving really subtle compliments that speak more to their personality while also sending a flirty wink emoji is perfect. It’s subtle, but the message is very clear.
#6 Get a little personal. Don’t be afraid to get to know them. Ask some personal questions about their life, but nothing that crosses the line. Don’t ask them about their previous relationships or their previous sex life. Just don’t.
Instead, ask some deeper questions. Get them to talk about their morals and values. This will lead into some very flirty conversation since you’ll know more about them. You’ll be able to tailor your messages to what they like. [Read: 20 cheeky, personal questions to ask someone you like]
#7 Make them laugh. The best way to flirt with anyone is to make them laugh. Tell a few jokes and get them giggling. Just make sure to avoid sexual jokes. Anything you think will make them laugh is fair game as long as it doesn’t seem like you’re just trying too hard.
#8 Tease them. Teasing is still the best way to go if you want to know how to flirt over text effectively. Just like when you were a kid, tease them! So long as you’re not actually insulting them, it’ll be cute. They’ll laugh about it and want to tease you right back. That banter is what will make them want to date you. [Read: How to tease a girl over text and get her to flirt back with you]
#9 Talk about “if I went out with you…” This isn’t just flirting, it’s also getting them to visualize what dating you would be like. Paint a really great picture and talk about the fun stuff you would do. Getting someone to think about how much fun they’d have with you is a really flirty way to definitely make them want to be with you.
#10 Send goofy pictures of yourself. If you have their snapchat, do so on that app instead of via texting or messenger. Otherwise, if they tell you something shocking or really funny, send your real facial reaction! Not only will they like seeing your face in real time, they’ll get a kick out of it. [Read: How to take a great selfie and look adorable every time]
#11 Don’t be overly sarcastic. You can usually tell if someone is being sarcastic by the tone of their voice. However, you can’t hear how someone is saying something through a text. And that means the person you want to impress might not hear something the way you intend, which is not good for you.
They could be offended by something you’ve said, even if you were being sarcastic. So you always want to use as little sarcasm as possible unless it’s very, very obvious.
#12 Be yourself. Cheesy? Yes. Effective? Also yes. Being yourself is by far the most important thing. Don’t try to be like someone else because it’ll be awkward, uncomfortable, and they’ll be able to tell. And believe me, they won’t like it. Allow them to get to know the real you and you’ll be just fine. [Read: 14 steps to being your true self]
#13 Leave them wanting a lot more. This might seem like a bad idea if you’re having a great conversation with someone but believe me, it works. If you want this person to text you first next time, leave them wanting more.
At the peak of a great conversation, tell them you have to go. You can make this less harsh by saying something like, “I had a great time talking to you but I actually have to get going right now. Talk to you later!” This ensures that you liked talking to them and you’ll definitely talk again. Leaving on a high note will make them continue thinking about you and they’ll be waiting for that next text.
Knowing how to flirt over text is way more important now than it ever has been. Since more and more people are getting to know one another over the phone before spending their time on a date, you need to know how to secure their affection.
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