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How to Be Sexually Attractive: 33 Subtle Ways to Seduce Anyone

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We all want it, but understanding how to be sexually attractive might stump even the best of us. Here are 33 tips to help you make them want you!

Knowing how to be sexually attractive isn’t just about being the most beautiful person in the room. Of course, having natural good looks help, but they only get you so far. Remember, beauty only runs skin deep.

There is no point being a stunner if you don’t have the other attributes required to lure someone to you. If you are cripplingly nervous, arrogant, or bore people to death with your conversation it’s going to be hard for them to imagine ripping your clothes off!

How to be sexually attractive – 33 steps to take you there

If you don’t believe me, sometimes the best way starts with thinking about the qualities you find sexually attractive in another human being. It’s not just all about looks, is it? There you go!

So, now that you know you don’t have to rush to the surgeon or go on some sort of fad diet to try and become more sexually attractive, what are the things you can do? Let’s take a look at some of them.

#1 Confidence. Being sexually attractive is all about confidence. Be happy with yourself, hold your head up high, and accept yourself for who you are! [Read: 12 ways to gain confidence when you have cold feet on a date]

#2 Body language. Having open, confident body language is important. Also remembering to do things like subtly touch someone when speaking, playing with your hair, and touching yourself also makes you more attractive too. [Read: How to flirt by touch without making it obvious]

#3 Dress well. Having good dress sense and knowing what suits you really boosts confidence and makes you extremely attractive to others.

#4 Stay in shape. Being healthy is so important. It’s not about being skinny, hugely muscular, or super fit. However, taking care of yourself and looking toned really helps to make you more sexually attractive.

#5 Good hygiene. Sometimes it’s important to remember the basics. Make sure you look fresh and smell good. An alluring perfume or cologne works wonders too!

#6 Having lots of friends. Surround yourself with people and you look like someone everyone wants to talk to.

#7 Being mysterious. Keep a little back, don’t give everything away, and seem a little mysterious! [Read: How to be mysterious without being too distant]

#8 Not giving it away! If you let them have everything they want right away, there is no time to build up the sexual chemistry and tension.

#9 Let them chase you. Make them work for it a little! The fun is all in the chase! [Read: How to make any guy chase you – 15 ways to make him fall hard]

#10 Blowing hot and cold. Okay, there is a fine line with this one, but teasing them a bit and blowing hot and cold can be delightfully frustrating. Just don’t go overboard. Otherwise they’ll give up rather than be driven wild with desire.

#11 Being a good dancer. A good dancer always attracts attention, so make sure you’ve got all the right moves on the dance floor!

#12 Having a dirty laugh. We know it can be hard to change your laugh, but a good old dirty laugh can be seriously attractive. An annoying one can be quite off putting too!

#13 Making someone feel good *and sexy*. You naturally become more sexually attractive to a person if you make them feel that way. So, remember, it’s not all about you. Give compliments, pay attention to what they are saying, and make them feel like the only person in the room!

#14 Knowing your way around the bedroom. Being sexually attractive is all about allure, but once you’ve got them in the bedroom, let’s face it, your prowess there comes into play. Having confidence and a few good tricks up your sleeve ensures they keep coming back for more!

#15 Talking dirty. Dirty talking increases the sexual tension, makes you seem super confident when it comes to bedroom matters, and increases arousal and desire. Make sure you get all the right signals before you start though—don’t make dirty talk your initial conversation starter! [Read: 23 sexy tips to dirty talk with the sexiest words]

#16 Wearing red. It’s been scientifically proven *especially for women* that donning a red dress, red tie, or bright red lipstick makes them more sexually attractive. Why not give it a try?

#17 Wearing glasses. The right pair of glasses actually makes you look more intelligent and gives off that sexy intellectual vibe.

#18 Biting your lip. Biting your lip while in a conversation with someone draws attention to this erogenous zone and soon they imagine kissing you. [Read: The scientific explanations for why lip biting is oh-so-sexy!]

#19 Smiling. Looking friendly and smiling really does help when it comes to sexual attraction, so just have lots of fun, smile at them, and be yourself!

#20 Laughing. Similarly, laughing lots makes you appear more attractive. Bonus points if you can make the object of your desire laugh lots too!

#21 Walk with a swish or a swagger. Women who shake their hips when they walk catch the eye of more men. And guys who walk around like they own the room are similarly attention grabbing. Just don’t overdo it or you might look arrogant *and a bit silly too*!

#22 Don’t cry! So, this might be obvious. Being overly sensitive, crying, overemotional, clingy, or needy, is mega off-putting for both sexes. Leave the childish temper tantrums at home.

#23 Show a little skin. Flashing a little flesh helps get them thinking about what you would look like naked. Just remember to do it tastefully. You need to leave a little to the imagination, after all. [Read: 14 really subtle moves to seduce men in an instant]

#24 Blushing. Blushing helps you look a little demure and coy, which conjures up all sorts of dirty thoughts and desires in another!

#25 Maintaining eye contact. If you want to know how to be sexually attractive, don’t be afraid to hold their gaze when they talk or send them lingering looks from afar. [Read: How to master the art of eye fucking]

#26 Whispering in their ear. Whispering in someone’s ear sends shivers down their spine, so go to a busy bar, stand close to them, and whisper in their ear, making sure your lips gently brush them when you do.

#27 Kissing close to their lips. When you say hello or goodbye, kiss them ‘on the cheek’ but actually go for just the side of their mouth, this makes them wish they’d turned their head just a little and kissed you full on! [Read: How to accidentally kiss someone and leave them wanting more]

#28 Flirting well. Knowing how to flirt with confidence is a great way to make someone find you more sexually attractive.

#29 Drinking red wine. Wanna know how to be sexually attractive even while just relaxing and having a drink? Try red wine. There is something inexplicably sexy and intoxicating about red wine, so why not share a bottle with the object of your desire and see where the evening takes you.

#30 Growing a beard. Obviously just for the guys, but growing a beard or stubble immediately gives you that attractive edge, so why not give it a go? [Read: 12 reasons why guys with beards make the best boyfriends]

#31 Playing an instrument. Both guys and gals who play an instrument well are thought to be more attractive to the opposite sex.

#32 Speaking a foreign language. Lots of people claim speaking a foreign language makes someone seem much more sexually attractive. A foreign accent works wonders too! [Read: The 26 naughtiest things to say in a foreign language]

#33 Having a dog. Last but not least, a cute dog makes you seem more attractive. Just remember they are pretty hard work to look after too!

[Read: The science of attraction and 17 aspects that go far beyond appearances]

Knowing how to be sexually attractive depends on what different people find attractive. So, what works for some won’t work for others. Having confidence in yourself and just relaxing, you more likely will attract others. Just take it easy, follow the tips above, and have fun!

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Bethany Locke
Bethany Locke
Bethany was born and raised in Scotland and now resides in Brighton where she lives with her partner and rather disobedient cocker spaniel pup. She works as a f...
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