Now that you’ve understood the different ways on ending a date, we’ll deal with the exact specifics here.
Ending a date is difficult business.
If you’re having a perfectly exciting and loin stirring date, you’d want it to last longer.
If you’re having a bad date, you’d want it to end immediately.
There are different ways on ending a date, and it can’t get better than this.
Ending the three kinds of dates
Now all experienced daters would know that there are three kinds of dates.
The good ones which leave you with happy memories in your head or a lover in your arms, the bad ones which were unfortunately bad even though it may have worked out if either of you had tried harder, and the ugly ones which left you with partial brain damage.
Now irrespective of which date you’re going to experience in the next few hours, here are the best rules to end all three of them.
Ending a good date the good way
Ending a date when everything’s fine and dandy is perfect.
Both of you are happy and floating on clouds because you’ve both experienced a chance encounter with a potential soulmate for life. [Read: How to find a soulmate]
There are three perfect ways to end a good date.
#1 With a hug
Now if both of you have really hit it off, but haven’t really got to play touchy and flirty, a warm hug is the safest way to end the date. It’s cozy, soft and so weak in the knees.
#2 With a kiss
Ending a date with a kiss is perfect. You may have shared a lot of chemistry and the little lingering touches may have turned both of you into mush. And as the clock ticks closer to saying goodbye, all both of you want is to get those lips together. So pucker up and get some action, but keep it simple. Don’t stick your tongue in immediately unless you know it’s going to be mutual.
#3 With both of you in bed
Men dream of these dates. Women wake up the next morning and ask themselves if they’ve attained a hooker status. But whichever gender you are, having sex after a first date is never a bad thing. Several couples who have been deeply in love for years have had sex around the first date, so take a deep breath and relax.
You’ve just found someone who could make you go weak in your knees, and someone who could make you orgasm like never before! Could you ask for more? Ending a date with sex can seem fast, but if that’s what the heart wants, who cares.
If you’re both ending the date in a good way, there’s always a promise of more good things to come. You’ve met someone with great compatibility and you should bask in its glory. Decide when to call each other up, and take that next happy step.
Ending a date the bad way
There are always more chances of finding yourself in a bad date than a good date. It’s natural and a game of odds and numbers. Most of the good ones get taken, and it’s not easy to find a perfect lover on every single date. After all, it’s got more to do with compatibility than anything else. [Read: Why you aren’t able to find love]
Here are the best ways to end a bad date that you’re not too happy about or a date with a potentially lost cause.
#1 Tell your date you’ll call sometime…
And never call them back again! This is the worst way for anyone to end a date. It’s disrespectful and it leaves your date hopping on coals wondering if you guys are going to meet again or not.
But it’s easy. Really, really easy. It’s the easiest way to be a chicken and worm yourself out of a confrontation. Don’t use this unless you’re a pathetic loser who doesn’t deserve dates.
#2 Tell your date you had a nice time…
Tell your date that you had a nice time, but you don’t really feel the chemistry. The both of you may have a great time, but sometimes it’s easier to be good friends than lovers with electric chemistry.
Ending a date this way may seem vague, but if you’re having a pretty decent time but don’t see a potential lover in your date, it’s better to end it pleasantly. It may feel awkward, but once you’re done saying it, it’s done. You don’t have to worry about bumping into your date again or avoiding their calls.
#3 Talk about the differences
Preaching about why you think a second date isn’t in the cards is never easy, especially if you’ve got an egoistic date.
Sometimes, you may enjoy a warm date, but you may be left with nagging issues about each other’s preferences when it comes to certain aspects like work, leisure interests, or even politics and religion. Ending a date over these issues may seem trivial to many, but unless you’re faced with a situation like this, you can’t really understand the gravity of the situation.
If you have a nice time, but don’t see this date as a stepping stone for several other dates to follow, let your date know that you had a pleasant time but perhaps it would be better for both of you to enjoy a good relationship as friends instead of lovers. It’s always better to call off a prospective relationship immediately than compromise a lot for each other without knowing what the future has in store. [Read: Dating facts]
Ending a date midway – The ugly way
This is tricky, rude and a complete failure of a date. This doesn’t happen often though. In fact, it’s even rarer than a good date. How often do you come across someone with whom you can’t even bear to spend an hour?
But now and then, there’s a chance that you’d bump into someone who looks rather different than that recent profile picture you saw. And if it’s not appearances and attire, it may be their obnoxious behavior. Irrespective of what the reasons may be, on one of these rare eventful dates, you may have a chance encounter with a really bad date. [Read: How to get to know someone on a date]
Here are the three best tried and tested ways to squirm yourself out of an ugly date, preferably without breaking hearts or hurting your date’s feelings.
#1 Fix a timeline at the start
Sometimes, it takes less than a few minutes to know if a date’s successful or not. In fact, a second glance could help you make up your mind. [Read: Understanding love at first sight]
If you’re stuck in a date like this, be warm and pleasant to start with. Don’t sit in the next table, don’t nudge your date with the restaurant mop and don’t duck under the table if you see someone you know at the restaurant. Pretend like you’re having a wonderful time and enjoying your date.
A minute or so into the date though, speak in your most sincere tone and tell your date that you’re really sorry but can’t stay longer than half an hour because an emergency’s come up and you’ve got to babysit your nephew or comfort a friend who’s lost their uncle. You know your mind, so come up with something believable and inescapable. It’s easy, you spend some time with your date and you walk out. No hearts broken and you walk out with dignity.
#2 Have a friend call you
If a first glance couldn’t really help you judge your date, you’re probably going to get stuck with this one. Midway through the date, you may find yourself bored or staring at a game on the big screen because there’s nothing really happening. Whatever the reasons are, if you do want to end the date midway, excuse yourself to go to the restroom. Call your friend and ask them to call you back in exactly ten minutes with an emergency.
A tsunami, need to bail your friend who just called you out of prison, your friend’s water just broke, whatever works!
If you want to avoid all signs of curiosity, plan ahead with your friend to call you midway through the date. If the date is taking a turn for the worse, fake surprise your date with some bad news and run away.
This may sound pretty fishy when your date hears it, but you’ve got to do what you’ve got to do. You can always call your date and tell them that you did have a nice time, but just don’t see it working out.
#3 Tell the truth
This is hard. But if you have a conscience and a will to help someone in need, this is the wise move. Ending a date by telling the truth could seem arrogant and rude, but it can help your date become a better person. And give you a little halo!
If you’re having a bad date and you find yourself waiting to end the date, just say it straight out. You don’t need to be rude or arrogant about it though. Speak calmly a good ten minutes into the date and tell your date that you’re happy to meet them but you just don’t see it working out.
Talk to them about a few personality traits that you don’t find compatible with them. Tell them that they could be a great dating potential if they’d change a few things about themselves. And then, end the date together and walk out together. Standing a date up or leaving them alone at the table is a big insult and could even scar them for life. Once you’re out, shake hands and walk away warmly.