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10 Dating Behaviors that are Extremely Unattractive

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In the early stages of a relationship, dating provides a chance to get to know each other better. So why can’t some people resist behaving badly?

It would be nice to say that when you go on a date, especially your first date, that you should just be yourself and everything else will fall into place. However, in solely practical terms, that just isn’t the case. Dating is a game of chess, where each half of the pair concerned is digging, delving, and prying at every opportunity in order to reveal any less than desirable traits in the other while all the time maintaining their own shield of respectability.

Hence, the importance of managing how you present yourself is paramount, and any slip ups in your delivered persona can bring the whole evening crashing to a sudden and irretrievable end.

What NOT to do – Immature dating habits that ruin a date

So, where to start. The list of “don’ts” on a date is huge and often entirely down to a good old-fashioned helping of common sense. However, that particular quality seems to be somewhat in short supply nowadays, and a little helping hand in arriving at the sensible solution might not go too far amiss for some of us.

And that of course, dear readers, is where LovePanky comes in. So, read on for our top-ten list of immature dating habits that, if you are occasionally guilty of, need to be sent packing.

#1 Dressing down. Some people think it’s their God-given right to dress how they normally do when attending a date, even if that means donning their egg-stained T-shirts and stinking old sneakers. However, all this does is show how immature and petulant you are, and entirely unable to compromise in order to make the better impression.

#2 El conquistador. When you’re out on a night with your friends, being unashamedly drunk and rowdy, then that is one example of an occasion when it’s okay to bring up former conquests. However, being on a date and going through your list of former bedfellows, mistakenly laboring under the belief that you’re somehow impressing them, is not only unwarranted but downright idiotic.

The only thing you’ll achieve from this course of dialogue is the sight of your date hastily retreating to the nearest exit. [Read: 12 toxic dating habits you probably think is normal]

#3 Being flashy. There is every chance in the world that the person you’re dating will be interested to hear about your successes at work and otherwise. However, there is a big difference between revealing a little about yourself and thrusting it in their face at every given opportunity. Revving up your Porsche or pulling out a bundle of bills is crass, silly, and highly immature. And if the person you’re dating is impressed by all that, then you can bet that it’s not your dazzling personality they’re after!

#4 Bodily functions. It personally amazes me that this ever has to be mentioned at all – but it most certainly does. The complaint frequently arises among daters that their partner felt it necessary, during the course of the evening, to let rip a tumultuous belch or trouser trump. And before you start looking all smug, ladies, guys are NOT the only guilty parties when it comes to this particularly felonious faux pas.

If you need, at any point, to eject gas from any orifice, then do please make your excuses and flee for the toilet, posthaste. To share them with all and sunder in your immediate vicinity is rude, inconsiderate, and downright disgusting.

#5 Lateness. Some among us, especially certain ladies, feel it is fine to be late to a date. Being fashionably late has always been the prerogative of the female, and most gentlemen will accept it – within reason. Ten or fifteen minutes maybe.

But half an hour or more not only starts to smack of rudeness but also wastes time that could be spent enjoying each other’s company. For gents though, any amount of lateness is unacceptable as a woman should never have to enter a bar or restaurant and be on her own. And if you do leave her there twiddling her thumbs, then don’t expect a callback. [Read: 18 things you have to avoid doing on a first date]

#6 Boozing. Having a drink on a date is fine. It loosens the tongue, makes you both feel relaxed, and aids the free flow of conversation. Guzzling it down your throat, however, is entirely unacceptable. It makes you talk too much and too loudly, and it causes you to become repetitive and boring. Not the way to impress.

#7 Wandering tongue. A good date consists of a regular flow of mutually involved conversation. Nothing is more likely to turn your partner sour than letting your tongue take over and chatting continuously, without pause, until it’s time to go home. People like to listen and be listened to, and hogging the conversation in its entirety is likely to lead to an early night. [Read: 14 signs you’re ruing your dates without realizing it]

#8 Wandering eyes. You’re on a date with someone you are supposedly expressing an interest in taking things further with, and yet your eye is passing languidly over the form of every half-decent-looking specimen of the opposite sex that comes into view. It’s insulting, immature, and likely to earn instant dismissal!

#9 Master and slave. They say you can tell a lot about someone by the way they treat people: receptionists, waiters, bartenders, and the like. Yet, some people think they can impress their partner for the evening by throwing their weight around and treating the staff, at whichever establishment they are frequenting, with utter disregard.

NEWSFLASH – this kind of behavior isn’t going to impress anyone. All it’s going to do is convince them that you’re a bully, and that once familiarity creeps in, they will experience similar treatment from you. Not a particularly motivating reason to move things forward. [Read: 8 dating attitudes that push potential partners away]

#10 Gluttony. If you’re going for a meal together, then do mind your table manners, and also do not treat the occasion like a prisoner on death row indulging in their last meal. It’s such a turn off to see someone shoving food into their mouth and ordering half the available menu in one sitting. If you do have an inordinately large appetite, then have something to eat beforehand to take the edge off your hunger, and avoid looking like a cast member of Animal Farm!

[Read: 20 little first date details to perfect your first date effortlessly]

If you want your first date to turn into a second, third, or fourth, then it’s time to drop the silly dating habits mentioned above and pull out your most polished performance. Otherwise, you’d better get used to the idea of spending your later years alone!

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5 thoughts on “10 Dating Behaviors that are Extremely Unattractive”

  1. Randi says:

    There are many behaviors that leave much to be desired and very unattractive. I think that being a chatter box is one of them. No one wants to hear someone monopolize or talk about themselves nonstop. It shows or should I say tells a lot about them. I also think that if my date or myself is gazing or entranced with someone who is not my date is rude and obnoxious. I want to feel like the conversation is like a tennis match I hit and then it is his turn and there is a rhythm to our conversation. Also keep or making sure that the eyes are set within the boundaries of our eyes and table then there is no room for unattractive and hurtful behavior.

  2. Ariel says:

    There are quite a few behaviors that people find unflattering when dating. I think that finding out that your partner is an alcoholic is at the top of my list. If all they want to do is party and drink, this could be bad for your relationship. It could be bad for the two of you if you share money and bills. They could be spending all of your money on booze and not on house responsibilities. This has been the case for me in at least one of my relationships. I later found out that it was drugs and alcohol which is a much worse combination.

  3. furious says:

    I really find it unattractive when girls put their make up on while having dinner. It’s a major turn off for me, you’re not respecting the food set on the table, you’re trying o put on your make up. Also, I don’t like it when my date uses her phone on the dinner table. I know it might be the norm for today’s generation but it’s a huge turn off for me because that shows you were not raised properly. I’m sorry if you get affected by my comment but this is real talk right now. don’t be influenced by other people, are you still kids? How immature can you be? Just because kids do it nowadays, doesn’t mean adults would need to try to mimic. What are the adults excuse of not having proper manners at the dinner table? Didn’t anyone teach you how to be a proper girl at the dinner table? I usually call off for a second date right after I see a girl putting make up at the dinner table or bust out her gadget to try to avoid to talk. It’s disrespectful to the food and to me. It’s fucking rude.

  4. Jessy says:

    I really think my boyfriend fits this category because I was 21 saving my self till marriage but I met this guy and I gave up my virginity to him.I drive for hours to see him for a little while. I pay for our dates because he is a full time student. I give him space to study and only hangout when he asks. I don’t mind him not texting just at least a goodnight text will get me happy. He doesn’t even want to do that. I was in the hospital because I had a migraine and told him but he didn’t even call. He Just said “I knew it was nothing serious.”He says stuff like “because of you I got a fail on my test I shouldn’t have spent so much time with you.” I started crying and he didn’t even care. When I call him when I am upset with him he just hangs up on me. He once broke up with me over the phone and I drove an hour to see him. I was in tears and said I. Need you to say it to my face then he hugged me and said he doesn’t want to break up. I don’t know why I can’t let go. I know he isn’t right for me but when I hold him I feel complete. But he breaks up with me and messages me weeks later and wants me back. I always feel used. I don’t know why I can’t let go of him. I’m always thinking about him. I go to work and school as well but I always look forward to seeing him. I’m always there for him when he needs help cleaning the house or taking care of his sick brother but he never appreciated me. I was thinking about just blocking him and moving on. I am really considering dumping him because this is just too much now.

  5. Steven says:

    Bodily functions: totally natural, I know, but really you should always excuse yourself from the mix in order to release them as the author here suggested. I was recently on a date with a girl who was perfectly nice, attractive, and put together in her own life, but she had no problem sharing her gas around the dinner table. Like, I know Mexican food probably wasn’t the best choice for a date with this character, but my jaw hit the floor with the amount she was letting go… and not in a good way. I’m still debating whether or not to give her another try.

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