If you’re just an onlooker or you want to know if you have a connection with someone, knowing the signs of chemistry between two people is essential.
It’s not always obvious when two people have a connection. And if you’re one of those two people, that can make it a bit frustrating. Sure, you know you like a person but how you be sure they like you too? Knowing how to read if there’s chemistry between two people can be a lot more beneficial than you probably think.
However, chemistry is a very odd thing because it’s not very obvious. You can’t really look at it from a distance and see it. It also feels different to different people, too.
Why chemistry is really important for a budding romance
If you’re not sure what chemistry is, I’ll explain quickly. It’s basically when two people naturally vibe well together. Their personalities match up and they get along very, very easily. You naturally have great chemistry with your friends. It’s why you can spend so much time with them and not get annoyed.
Romantic chemistry, on the other hand, is a little different in the sense that it accompanies lustful feelings. You still feel a natural connection but you also feel like you like them, even after first meeting.
And that connection is really important in a relationship because without it, your feelings won’t remain. Everything will be forced and it won’t feel like a natural progression if that initial chemistry is absent. [Read: How to create sexual chemistry and make it stay]
How to tell if there’s chemistry between two people
Chemistry can be difficult to pinpoint if you’re not sure what you’re looking for. Here’s what you need to pay attention to if you want to determine if there’s chemistry between two people.
#1 Both people light up. This is instantly when they meet. They’ll both just get this giddiness about them, even if they have no idea why. When the two people meet, the chemistry has already started.
Pay close attention to what the people do as they’re introduced. Do they get red and blush? Then it’s definitely a sign of attraction and chemistry. If it’s awkward and less impactful, there’s isn’t much between them. [Read: How to forge a connection with someone right away]
#2 Lots of smiling. Smiling is just something you’ll do if you have chemistry with someone. It’s your body’s reaction when you’re in a good situation. And since our bodies are hardwired to seek out a mate, the moment they see someone who can potentially be the one, it’ll react accordingly. If you find yourself or a friend smiling for no reason, there’s definitely mutual chemistry.
#3 Closeness. When two people seem to gravitate toward one another, the chemistry is very clear. Both people won’t even be trying to do it. It’ll just happen to them and they’ll find themselves really close to the person they have chemistry with.
This is because of our bodies desire to be around those who are good for us. When your body feels like a single person with someone else, you’ll subconsciously start moving toward them. Which means there is definitely chemistry. [Read: 10 clear signs of body language attraction]
#4 Physical contact. Playful, innocent touching is a big sign of chemistry between two people. It can be as simple as bumping shoulders or as extreme as sitting on someone’s lap. The latter is an obvious sign that two people have chemistry but the first is just as significant.
#5 They have the same sense of humor. Humor is a great way to figure out if you have chemistry with someone. Having the same sense of humor means your brains think alike. When you have something that important in common with someone, chemistry is the obvious reason for it.
#6 Shared interests. Do you both like to do the same things? Do you share weird hobbies with them? If so, it’s because you have chemistry with them. Those desires for certain hobbies and interests show personality deeply and having those things the same means you have a lot more in common deeper down. [Read: 5 most important signs of relationship compatilbility]
#7 Their body positions mirror each other. This is something humans do without actually realizing it. When we like someone and have chemistry with them, our bodies mirror theirs. So if you notice someone standing with their arms crossed and the other person is doing the same, they probably have mutual chemistry.
#8 A sense of comfort, even with strangers. This is a major sign that two people have some extreme chemistry between them. After just meeting, if they end up talking like old friends and have this sense of comfort around them, the chemistry is obvious.
You’ll be able to see this in the way their bodies react to one another. Usually, when you meet someone new, you’re a little more on edge and this is seen in a straighter posture and you’re just less relaxed in general. For people with chemistry, they seem extra relaxed and open to one another. [Read: How to tell if there’s no chemistry and you should stop trying]
#9 Easy flowing conversation. Conversation is really easy when there’s chemistry between two people. You can just talk and talk and nothing feels weird or strained. There are also far fewer awkward silences and it seems like a more fulfilling conversation in general.
#10 Genuine behavior. When two people have chemistry, there’s not really any fake behavior. They don’t feel the need to fake laugh or fake smile. It’s all real and natural because those things happen easily.
#11 It’s clear they’ve known each other for a long time, even if they haven’t. This is a very, very clear sign that there’s chemistry between two people. When they act as though they’ve been friends for years but hardly know each other, it’s a natural connection. [Read: 20 types of physical touches and what they mean]
#12 Banter flows easily. This is different than conversations that flow easily because it’s quick, witty, and fun. When two people can go back and forth with smart-ass comments and jokes, they have serious chemistry. This is another really obvious sign that you can pinpoint if you listen to them for a little while.
Being able to read if there’s chemistry between two people can help you hook your friend up and even help you recognize it within yourself. These ways of being able to tell are your best bet to spot it.
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