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10 Super Subtle Gestures that Reveal Someone’s Into You

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You don’t have to be a master in the art of seduction to know when someone likes you. Here are some ways attraction unintentionally reveals itself.

It is one of the biggest issues of the whole dating scene: knowing if someone’s into you or not, and whether the time is right to act upon it. After all, getting the timing wrong can ruin the whole thing.

Moving in too early, for instance, when the attraction has just begun, can scare them off and make them reassess their feelings for you. Leaving it too late, on the other hand, is just as likely to mess things up, leaving the person attracted to you feeling jaded and bored of waiting for you to make the first move.

Some signs of attraction then are stronger than others and need no further support to justify you instigating any romantic moves. Other signs, though, are weaker and need to be compounded by other similar signs before you should make the vital move.

How do people subtly reveal their attraction?

Just some of these vital signs of attraction, all quite subtle but some more so than others, are listed in the points here. [Read: 15 signs of attraction between a guy and a girl]

#1 A touching thought. Touching someone and the way that we do it is often a sign of attraction. Of course, we’re not talking about a full on bear hug or anything like that. Just the occasional touch of the arm, shoulders, or back, which are three of the more innocuous areas that people choose to focus upon when giving out this little sign.

If, however, this advances onto touches of the knee, hand, hip, or waist, then a far stronger signal is being given out, and you may want to act upon it to avoid coming across as somewhat hesitant and uncertain, especially when partnered with any of the other signs outlined below. [Read: How to subtly flirt by touching]

#2 White teeth. A flash of white teeth from a full-blooded and unashamed smile, not a snarl or grimace, is another possible sign of attraction. This does depend upon the individual, however, as there are many people out there who are natural smilers.

What you have to look out for otherwise is the duration, frequency, and depth of smile. Compare how they smile with you against how they smile with others. Are the smiles you receive a little wider, a little longer, a little more focused, and far more frequent than they are giving out to other friends, acquaintances, or colleagues? If this is the case, then you could be getting sent a message – subconscious or otherwise.

#3 A gift horse. Does the person you suspect of being attracted to you, or that you are wishing to be attracted to you, never turn up empty handed? Do they always bring a little gift in tow that only rarely seems to be extended to others? That could then be yet another subtle little sign of attraction.

And when we say gifts, we’re not talking diamond rings or a new Porsche – it could be as small and simple as a cup of coffee or a cookie. But whatever it is, don’t dismiss its potential importance as a significant indicator of them being into you.

#4 Helping hands. This one is especially relevant in the workplace and describes one of those situations, where someone seems just a little too keen to want to help you and do so just a little too frequently. You may have considered such actions to reflect the natural manner of a genuinely considerate person. But take another look – are they extending the same amount of help to others?

If they’re sprinting across the office 70s TV cop style to help you clear a paper jam whilst another member of the staff is racing around in the background trying to repair an accidentally severed thumb, then you can be pretty sure that they have their sights set on you. [Read: 9 dating moves that are awkward but cute]

#5 It is written. Written messages can say so much about how someone feels about you, whether through a phone text, email, or other forms of writing. Forgetting the content for a second, just the number of messages can tell you reams about how they feel for you, as can the time they are sent.

Receiving late evening goodnight messages from them? Then you might want to ask yourself why it is that you of all people are the last thing on their minds! The kisses at the end of a message also tell much about how that person thinks about you, and it might be worth doing a little bit of subtle scouting around to see if everyone else is getting two kisses on the end of their messages – if any at all. [Read: 10 ways to read mixed signals and turn the signs into love]

#6 The bumps. Is it the case that you previously never saw them anywhere, except for one particular social situation, but now you’re bumping into them all over the place? Have they mysteriously taken up squash at the place you go to, even though they’re about as sporty as Bill and Ted? Have they suddenly started drinking at the places you and your friends frequent, even though they are confirmedly teetotal?

It could be a coincidence, but far more likely is the possibility you’ve rather abruptly become the object of their affections.

#7 The pride and groom. It is a natural inclination, when you are attracted to someone, to want to look your best for them and step up the grooming routine. Hence, when someone within your immediate social sphere of influence changes overnight from a Pigpen to a Pitt or a Jabba to a Jolie, then you can bet that their intentions go beyond any general need to shape up – especially when it’s only ever the case in your own particular presence.

#8 Straight up! Do they suddenly and self-consciously pull their body language into self-aware order every time you approach? Maybe you approach them from a distance, across the office or bar, and observe them slumped across a seat and sprawling in a relaxed at-ease fashion, but immediately jumping to attention as soon as they see you. If so, you’ve identified another very probable sign of attraction. [Read: 18 body language signs of attraction to know if a friend is into you]

#9 Star struck. Sometimes, no matter how composed or controlled they try to be, the eyes give everything away. If that starry-eyed expression falls across their face or if you inadvertently catch them gazing at you from across the room, then chances are that Cupid’s bow has found its mark.

#10 Nice trip. Some people just go to pieces in the presence of someone they’re attracted to. They blush, sweat, get all clumsy and fall over their own feet at the merest hint of your name. You, of course, won’t be aware of this. You’ll just think that’s how they act all of the time because that’s how they always act in your presence.

The trick is, in such circumstances as these, to identify this anomaly through the behavior of other observers. If they seem bemused and surprised by the way this individual is comporting themselves, then this could be a dead giveaway of how they feel towards you.

[Read: 20 unmistakable signs your friend is crushing on you]

Keep your eyes open for these top ten subtle signs of attraction, and prepare to take the next step. Whether that means making a move on them or running for the hills, only you know!

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3 thoughts on “10 Super Subtle Gestures that Reveal Someone’s Into You”

  1. confuse_heart says:

    This is how I discovered that this particular guy likes me. He keeps texting me for almost a hundred times every day and he never fails to make a call although I am not answering his call nor replying to his text messages. He also frequently sends me small things usually foods because he knows that I love to eat (I am not fat though). He didn’t say anything to me but all the signs are there telling me implicitly that he likes me. But what should I do, the feeling is not mutual. I don’t like him at all. He is not bad-looking. It’s just that I have no special feelings for him. Tell me folks, what I’m going to do?

  2. Friedman says:

    I found out that the one I always had a crush on when I was still in college has a huge crush on me right now and yes, her subtle gestures did reveal that. I went and asked her on a date and she gladly said yes. This was my real opportunity right now to be really happy because back in college it was always my dream for her to be my girlfriend and now finally, it’s actually coming true. I love how she is gentle with me and very kind. I like how she smiles at me and looks at me. Her smile was always there back in college but the way she looks at me now, it’s just so different. I really feel a connection towards her now. Her eyes are like the pathway to her sould and I feel connected to her. It’s like her eyes and my eyes somehow just connect our souls together. Could it be? We were soulmates right from the beginning but we never really realized it until now? We went on a few more dates and that’s when I asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend. She told me she always wanted me to be her boyfriend ever since she met me in college and I was in shock because I felt that she was always avoiding me back in college because she may have known that I had a crush on her. I said that to her too and she was in disbelief. The way we acted in college just seemed to the both of us that we were kind of leaning away from each other rather than wanting to be together. Maybe now because we are together are souls are so linked and we just can’t have enough of each other. I was wondering if she has thought about me all these years and she said yes. I always wondered why I never really wanted to pursue another girl other than you, my soul just wants to be with you and only you. She hasn’t had a boyfriend since college as well and I thought otherwise because she was really popular and didn’t really have trouble getting guys to like her. She said ti me that she was always waiting for my move but I never did make it. I was supposed to ask her out before and even with a bet I made with my friends that I could do it but I lost the bet. Now, I think they owe me 5 bucks because I’m with her and I asked her out. I can’t be any happier right now. Now that we’re together, I never want us to be apart again. I asked her if she wanted to room with me and she said that she was fine with whatever I want to do and she was planning to move out from her shared apartment anyway. I live alone so this would be a huge step for me but she is way worth it. I wished that I had the guts before to tell her how I feel for her but right now is as good as ever. There’s a reason for everything guys. Don’t stop holding on. We’ve been together for 2 years now and we couldn’t be happier. Have a happy love life.

  3. Will says:

    Gifts have a real important line to draw though. Of course you’re not going to throw a brand new car at someone you just met (at least, I hope you wouldn’t), but rather those little gestures are going to add up really quick if you start doing them excessively. What’s more is that your gifts will become commonplace in a relationship and you can set your watch to how quickly she’s going to start complaining if the gifts suddenly dry out. I prefer to avoid giving gifts altogether because of this. Sure, some occasions will obviously call for it, but a gift just because? It’s not for me.

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