When it comes to the cold, we all want someone around to keep us warm. But what is cuffing season and how can you make sure you’re not left out?
If you don’t know what cuffing season is, don’t worry. You’re not alone. When I first heard this term a while back, I was super confused. Was it just that time of year everyone started using handcuffs in bed? I had to ask a lot of people what it was before someone finally knew the answer. So what is cuffing season, you ask?
This is the time of year when the weather takes a turn for the frigid and you start seeking someone to keep you warm at night. This isn’t something that we actually do consciously, but rather, something humans have done for a very long time.
The cold weather rolls in and it just so happens that we end up in a relationship. That way, we have someone there at all times when we need some cuddling. It’s like our bodies know we’ll be extra cold and so our consciousness takes over and we land ourselves a great cuddle buddy. [Read: Do guys like to cuddle? 15 truths you never knew before]
How cuffing season can be a great thing
There are so many reasons cuffing season could be great for you. Not everyone ends up settling down for the cold months, but if you do, you’ll reap a lot of rewards. Firstly, you’ll be warmer. It’s no secret all that body contact and cuddling keeps you warm.
Secondly, you may actually end up meeting someone really special. Sure, cuffing season may have started with temporary intentions, but there’s always the chance that your cuffing season mate may end up as your life-long love. Anything is possible. [Read: The best cuddling positions you have to try]
How to make sure you’re not left behind this cuffing season
Do you really want to spend the long, cold winter months without someone to Netflix and chill with? Probably not. Here are our fool-proof ways to find someone who’s down to cuddle up and stay warm this cuffing season. [Read: How to Netflix and chill the right way]
#1 Start early. You never want to leave the search for a great cuddle buddy for the last minute. You might end up with someone flaky and not fun at all. Therefore, you should start early.
You can even start as early as the fall. I know it’s usually not that cold around this time, but if it takes you a month or two to find the right person, you’ll be thankful you started early. Don’t leave it for the last minute when the snow is already on the way down.
#2 Go out and meet people. You can’t really expect to find a snuggle buddy for cuffing season without actually meeting other people. So get out there and meet a few great people! Better yet, you can even create your list for cuffing season during the summer months when you’re out meeting a lot of people.
That way, you can go back through your phone and recall people you connected with. The point is, you need to get out and interact with people so you can find a person who would be down with cuddling all winter long. [Read: How to meet new people in 16 exciting new ways]
#3 Get a few options lined up. Don’t find just one person and forget everyone else. Have a few options lined up so if one person didn’t work out for whatever reason, you have others to fall back on. It would be very unfortunate to only have one person for cuffing season and they ended up being a snore – or worse – smelly and uncuddleable *yes that’s a word I just made up*.
#4 Spend enough time with each of them. Before committing to spend cuffing season with someone, you have to get to know them well. Think of it like dating – because that’s kind of what it is. Sure, you may not end up in a relationship with that person, but you’ll spend a lot of time with them.
So make sure you can stand to be in their presence for extended periods of time. Get to know them on a deeper level so you know if you can spend your colder months cuddling with them. [Read: 20 questions to get to know someone way better]
#5 Don’t go for someone who seems uninterested in cuddling. You can’t really spend cuffing season with someone who doesn’t actually want to be cuffed. There are definitely those who enjoy cuddling and others who severely dislike it.
This may not have anything to do with you. Some people run very hot and the thought of being super close to another warm individual just isn’t appealing. Figure out those details ahead of time so you’re not wasting your time with the wrong person.
#6 Find someone who likes the same movies and shows as you. Now, this may not be all that important in a long-term relationship. Any couple will survive just fine if you don’t like the same shows and movies. However, if you really want to be successful this cuffing season, you’ll have to find someone who has your taste.
#7 Make sure they’re also down for fun. I know a lot of cuffing season is spent indoors cuddling up, but that doesn’t mean you won’t ever go out and have fun. You want to make sure you get someone for cuffing season that will want to have a good time, too. So be sure you understand what they like to do for fun and that they’d be down to leave the house every now and then.
#8 Establish if you want an actual relationship beforehand. This can be tough to do because you never know how much you’re going to like someone. That’s why you need to figure this step out long before you find someone for cuffing season.
If you want a real relationship, you’ll be able to find someone who wants the same. Otherwise, you have to look for those who don’t actually want the real thing. Knowing this ahead of time will save you some heartache if you end up falling for the person. [Read: 19 clear signs you are ready for a serious relationship]
#9 Discuss holiday plans early on. The downside of cuffing season is that it’s right in line with the holiday season. And that means spending a lot of holidays that involve presents with this new person.
In order to ease the awkwardness, address this early on. Decide whether or not you want to participate in gift exchanges with them. Personally, I would avoid gifts altogether. It only makes the cuffing season more tense – and that’s not what you want at all.
#10 Make sure you’re okay with the idea of something temporary. Not everyone you spend the cold months snuggling with will last forever. In reality, most couples who hook up during cuffing season don’t make it through the spring.
This is partly because once the warm weather rolls around, you just want to get out and have fun the single way. So make sure you’re okay with the idea of something not lasting forever. If you’re looking for someone to spend cuffing season with, just remember that it may not turn into happily ever after.