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How to Talk to Girls on Tinder? 20 Tips to Leave Them Wanting More

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If you match with a girl that’s great, but do you wonder how to talk to girls on Tinder? Here are 20 fantastic conversation tips to get you going!

Knowing what to say to a girl on Tinder can be tough. You want to impress her and keep her interested, but you don’t want to come across as desperate or like you’re trying too hard. If you want to take things to the next level, you must start a conversation. These 20 tips will get you going on how to talk to girls on Tinder the right way, and charm them in no time!

Remember you compete with all the other guys she might have matched with. Move fast and just go for it—don’t wait for her to do it.

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Keep in mind she obviously likes the look of you and what you said about yourself on your profile. Take confidence, that’s already a great sign. You know you are attracted to one another, so now it’s all about the chat. Understanding how to talk to girls on Tinder is simple with these tested ways to go about it.

#1 Funny. Girls just love a guy who makes them laugh. In fact, it is constantly rated as one of the most important qualities girls look for in a guy. If you can say something funny as an icebreaker, then she’ll immediately know you are a witty guy—and that’s super attractive.

Something like “How will we tell people we met?” is kind of cute and not trying too hard either. Going down the funny route can be a little risky, so maybe check with a friend that what you’re writing is actually going to make her laugh. If she doesn’t get it or thinks it stupid, it could do the opposite and put her off instead! [Read: 15 Tinder openers to leave any girl captivated and instantly interested]

#2 Smooth. Trying to be smooth works wonders if you think you are chatting to a classy girl who likes to be wined and dined. Being smooth isn’t the same as being arrogant, but there is a fine line. Say something charming like “I think you’re beautiful, I’d love to take you out for dinner.” This shows confidence which is a huge turn on for lots of ladies.

#3 Sexy. Let’s be honest, while lots of people are on Tinder to find love, there are just as many who do it purely for the hookups. If that’s all you are looking for there is no point beating around the bush about it. She’ll either love it or hate it! If you’re prepared to take the risk, then just go for it. [Read: How to find the hottest hookup in no time using Tinder]

#4 Forward. You don’t want to spend hours of your precious time going back and forth writing huge essays to one another when you can get to know each other face to face. So why not take the most forward approach and ask her out right away? It might be a little pushy, but hey, isn’t that what you came here for in the first place?

#5 Flirty. Keep things fun and flirty for a great response. To be flirty, point something out in one of her pictures that teases her, but in a cute and obviously joking way. When she responds, you compliment her in the next message and see where the conversation goes. If she starts flirting with you back, then you know you are onto a winner. [Read: 15 Tinder tips you can NOT ignore if you want a date]

#6 Direct. Being direct can be the easiest way to go from chatting on Tinder to meeting in person. If you are the kind of guy who likes to get things done, then just ask her out directly. If she’s the kind of lady who also prefers getting to know someone face to face, well, then you’ll be a match made in heaven.

#7 Honest. Don’t brag or make up things that aren’t true. It can be tempting sometimes to embellish the truth when we try to impress someone, but this rarely works out well. Just be honest with her, tell her you like her, and she’ll probably be flattered and find it refreshing too. [Read: Good Tinder bios that get you dates: 12 tweaks for a perfect bio]

#9 Kind. Show her how kind you are from the outset. Ladies love a kind gentleman. If you want to know how to talk to girls on Tinder the right way, make sure you show off your sweet side, and you’ll have her swooning in no time.

#10 Simple. Don’t overthink things too much. Sometimes a simple, “Hey, how are you doing?” is the best and easiest way to start a conversation. If you play it safe and keep things simple at least you know you won’t do anything to put her off! [Read: What to say on Tinder – 27 conversation tips to make you stand out]

#11 Interested. There is nothing wrong with showing her you are keen from the outset. Tinder is made for matching people together, and the fact that you both swiped right means you can be sure she is interested in you too.

#12 Slow. Perhaps you are the kind of guy who likes to take things slow. In a way, sometimes it is nice for you both to get to know a little bit about one another before you actually meet up. So, you could try telling her a little bit about yourself, and asking her to do the same. Just make sure you don’t run out of things to talk about before your first date!

#13 Short and sweet. Keeping things short and sweet means you don’t have to spend too much time worrying about what you are saying. Just be casual, keep it simple, and see where it goes.

#14 Don’t overthink it. Really you shouldn’t have to spend hours coming up with an amazing one-liner. It will get you stressed out before you have even begun. Just bite the bullet and go for it. [Read: Signs a girl likes you on Tinder: 15 things to keep an eye on]

#15 Ask questions. Make sure you ask a question or two, that way she’ll be more likely to reply.

#16 Answer questions. If she’s asked you something don’t shy away from it. It makes it seem as though you aren’t listening to her, which is always off-putting.

#17 Be wary of emojis. Emojis—some people love them, some people hate them. Play it safe and leave them out unless she starts sending them to you.

#18 Don’t be too forward. If you want to date this girl, perhaps it’s not a good idea to be overly forward right from the outset. If you put too much pressure on her or turn the conversation sexual immediately she might find this a bit off-putting. You have been warned!

#19 Remember your end goal. For most people, Tinder is a platform to try and meet someone they could start a relationship with. Keep you end goal in mind, if the conversation goes on for days and days, it’s probably a good time to ask her out before she loses interest. [Read: How to start a Tinder conversation and snag a date every time]

#20 Have fun! Remember that above anything else, this is supposed to be fun! So, don’t get too stressed about it, and don’t worry if things don’t work out—there are plenty more fish in the sea.

[Read: 21 Tinder conversation starters that’ll intrigue a girl instantly]

Understanding how to talk to girls on Tinder is varying, and it can be hard to know which approach works best until you try a few of them out. Experiment with a few and figure out which approach you feel most comfortable with. Then get out there and happy Tindering!

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Bethany Locke
Bethany Locke
Bethany was born and raised in Scotland and now resides in Brighton where she lives with her partner and rather disobedient cocker spaniel pup. She works as a f...
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