The first kiss is usually something terrifyingly exciting, a moment you both know you want each other. Here’s how to kiss someone for the first time.
The first kiss is a big deal. Now, it’s not a deal breaker if it doesn’t go just as you planned. But it’s a good way to judge if there’s sexual chemistry between you two or not. So, understanding how to kiss someone for the first time is important and basic knowledge.
It’s the kiss that makes you think, “Do I want more of this or not?” Now, trust me, I’ve had some horrible first kisses that ended up going really well the second or third time around. So, you shouldn’t judge everything just by the first kiss. If your partner is nervous or not feeling well, it changes everything. But, of course, I know you want to make the first kiss as intense and emotional as possible. [Read: 22 tips to make it the perfect first kiss]
How to kiss someone for the first time
No matter what I tell you in this feature, the first kiss is always terrifying. Yes, you should follow these tips, but if you sweat from anxiety, it won’t matter what I say because you probably won’t do it. So, don’t put so much pressure on your first kiss.
Instead, think of it like a hug. It’s the first time you’re hugging them. I know, it sounds lame but it’s not, it helps you to calm down for the big kiss. You just need to go with the flow.
#1 Pay attention to hygiene. Now, sometimes you don’t know the first kiss is going to happen. If you have an idea that it may happen, pay attention to what’s going on in your mouth. Take a couple minutes to brush your teeth, pop a couple breath mints, and avoid eating smelly foods such as onions or garlic. But, if you don’t prepare, don’t worry. In those cases, they probably didn’t either. [Read: 6 giveaway signs your date is ready for that first kiss]
#2 Don’t force it. I know you want to kiss this person, but relax. Your first kiss shouldn’t be something forced, something that you planned meticulously. Your first kiss should come in a moment where you both want it, the moment when you both know it’s the right time. If you feel like it’s something you need to do, I get it, but you don’t need to push it. [Read: 13 sultry signs they want to kiss you]
#3 Be flirty. Before the kiss, give signals to show the other person you want to kiss them/they kiss you. This means to be flirty. They can’t read your mind and see what you really want, so guide them to the answer. Touch them playfully when you talk, hug them, be physically close to them. If they respond positively, it shows their interest.
#4 Actually look at how they interact with you. Sometimes, we get so caught up in our own feelings that we completely ignore the other person’s. So, how do you know if they want to kiss you if you’re not paying attention to their body language and reactions? If they avoid eye contact with you and stay away from any physical contact, it doesn’t sound like interest.
#5 Make eye contact. Eye contact is extremely important when it comes to the first kiss. There’s always that moment before the kiss when it goes silent. That’s usually when you look into each other’s eyes and give each other a silent confirmation that you want to kiss. If they avoid eye contact that’s usually a good sign that they’re not interested. [Read: How to initiate a kiss that’ll make them remember you forever]
#6 Ask them. When it comes to knowing how to kiss someone for the first time, many people think asking to kiss someone is a great way to kill the buzz. However, that’s wrong. If someone is really into you and you ask them for a kiss, they think it’s super sweet and respectful. Plus, if you’re not 100% sure that they’re into you, this clears the air and gives you an answer.
#7 Move closer to them. If you want to go in for a kiss, move in closer to them. Make sure you stand close to them, so you don’t lunge into them for a kiss. You want your face to slowly move into theirs, that way, they have time to either move forward or to pull back.
#8 Tilt your head slightly. When you move your face close to theirs, you’ll want to ever so slightly tilt your head to the side. By doing this, you avoid knocking your nose into their’s—not the best way to start your first kiss, let’s stay away from the emergency room. Though, if you do happen to knock noses, just laugh it off—it’s cute. [Read: 12 foolproof kissing tips for a sexy smooch]
#9 Part your lips. When your head is tilted and you move in, part your lips slightly, almost as if breathing through your mouth. With your lips, aim for one of their lips, usually the bottom one and press your lips against theirs.
#10 Nose breathing. Unless you have a stuffy nose, breathe through your nose. Taking huge gasps of air while kissing isn’t the sexiest move. But, if you can’t breathe through your nose, don’t worry about it, just breathe through your mouth softly when you start to feel breathless.
#11 Use your hands. When you kiss, feel free to use your hands. Run it through their hand, caress their face, or hold onto their arms, back, or waist. When you use your hands you add more sensuality to the kiss which makes the other person relaxed and aroused. [Read: 15 secrets to make your first kiss really memorable]
#12 Enjoy it. The first kiss is always the most exciting. I mean, you kiss this person for the first time. So, don’t overthink it. In the end, it comes naturally to you. You’ll learn what you like and don’t like to do while kissing. In addition, the first kiss also shows you if you’re interested in something more or not with them.