Questions are easy to ask, but the perfect questions are ones that lead to conversations.
Don’t get personal or say anything that may leave your date feeling awkward or embarrassed.
You may be nervous, but that’s no reason to speak out the first thing that comes to your mind.
We’ve got a long list of great first date questions that you can use and impress, but remember to mix your questions so it’s a good blend of short answers and long answers.
At the same time, remember that some of the potentials you meet may be shy or may need a few minutes to open up and talk to you. So don’t wonder about why your date isn’t talking unless they’re staring at their watch or frowning. Say something about yourself to help them feel comfortable or smile warmly. It’ll surely help your date feel more relaxed. [Read: 30 subtle, obvious and sexual flirting tips for girls]
The right way to use these first date questions
The first thing you need to know here is to avoid throwing one question after another at your date. Wait for your date to respond with their answer, and then wait for about ten more seconds by playing with your food or looking at the menu to see if your date’s ready to ask you a few questions.
If your date doesn’t ask you anything, look at them warmly, smile and ask another question. Hopefully, your date will try to get to know you better really soon.
CAUTION: 3 things to remember before using this list
#1 Mix your questions. The questions provided here are a good mix of open ended questions that can lead to more questions and a few easy ‘yes or no’ questions. Start with the simple questions to see how much of a talker your date really is. And use the open ended questions to have many more conversations that’ll make you seem like a great conversationalist.
#2 Don’t stick to the list. Use a few of these first date questions to get things warmed up and then, forget all about these questions. The more you try to stick to a list of questions, the lesser your chances of impressing your date because you’ll be so focused on jumping from one question to the next that you’ll actually forget to see any chances to extend a perfect question into an exciting conversation. [Read: 15 obvious flirting signs between a guy and a girl]
#3 Don’t memorize the list. That’s the worst thing you can do. If you sit in front of your date and recite one question after another, you’ll make the date feel like a job interview. Read these questions, keep a few in your mind or store them on your cell phone, and use this list as ice breakers when the conversation starts to run dry.
40 first date questions to have a great conversation
Before you even use these 40 questions, read this very effective guide on what to talk about on a first date. You can definitely use those tips to create natural conversations that’ll make you a smooth talker and a charmer instantly.
And once you know how to create long conversations using those tips on what to talk about on a date, use these 40 first date questions to create new conversation ideas.
#1 Do you like this place?
#2 What do you usually like to drink?
#3 How’s your salad/main course?
#4 Have you come here before? / Do you come here often?
These 40 first date questions are really easy to use at any point in your conversation during your date. Try them, and you’ll definitely seem like a really fun conversationalist and leave a great first impression too!
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Morgan Miller is a writer who lives in the Bay area, and suffers from an addiction to all things geeky and artsy. She loves wearing leggings as pants, and when ...