We can’t always control the people we end up falling for. If you really don’t want to catch feelings for someone, here’s what to do.
Love can be really difficult to understand. We can avoid falling for someone all we want and still end up liking them. But when you really don’t want to catch feelings for someone, you’ll need to know what to do when you start.
Because you can’t control yourself. No matter how many times you tell yourself you’ll never catch feelings for someone, you still might. And since you have very specific reasons for not wanting to like someone, it can be a bit of a hassle if you do end up liking them.
Why you might not want to fall for someone
We all have our reasons for wanting to like someone and for wanting to avoid ever falling for them. You might know a bit more about their history than you’d like and it can put you off from dating them, even if you really like them.
You may also just want to avoid liking them so you don’t have to deal with a significant other. Maybe you’re not ready for that. Really, there are tons of different reasons you might want to stop yourself from falling for someone. [Read: How to stop liking someone you know you can never have]
What to do when you catch feelings for the wrong person
Truth be told, you may end up in a situation where you’ve fallen for someone even though you didn’t want to. Luckily, there are a few things you can do to make that a bit easier. Here are all the things you can do when you realize you’ve caught feelings for someone you tried to stop yourself from liking.
#1 Don’t live in denial. If you sit and deny your feelings, they’ll only grow stronger. You have to acknowledge them. Once you realize that you do actually like that person as more than just a friend, you can deal with it appropriately.
#2 Get away from them. You really can’t be around someone when you catch feelings for them. You’ll want to be, but you can’t. If you’re around them too much those feelings will just deepen and you’ll basically just fall in love with them.
When you get some distance, you’re able to think a little clearer and it can help you gain perspective. Plus, your feelings will fade the less you’re around them.
#3 Limit or stop your communication. Just like you can’t be around them all the time, you need to stop talking to them, too. And yes, that means you need to stop texting and snapchatting them.
#4 Think about all their flaws. When you focus on someone’s flaws, it can often put you off from liking them. Usually, even the people you like have something that makes you question your feelings. However, if you want to date them, you usually ignore those things.
Instead of doing that, focus on it. Remember those flaws every time you start thinking about how much you like them. That flaw is the one thing that can stop you from trying to be with them when you know you can’t.
#5 Ask your friends to help. Your friends should be there for your support. If you’re having a tough time, talk to them. They can often run interference when you’re forced to be around them and they can also help remind you why you can’t be together. Your friends will also point out flaws that you might even be blind to, which can help you forget about your feelings for them. [Read: How to handle the pain of liking someone you can’t have]
#6 Find someone else to catch feelings for. The best thing for you to do when you catch feelings for someone you don’t want is to find someone else. Replace them. Even if you don’t want to date anyone at all, just find another person to crush on.
Having feelings for that new person will help eclipse your feelings for the other. You may even forget about liking them all together and could potentially have something great with that new person.
#7 Focus on yourself. Be selfish. If you really want to get rid of those feelings, just turn the focus to yourself. Get a gym membership, pick up a new hobby, and do whatever you can to better your own life. Overtime, you’ll stop liking them and all will be right again. [Read: 11 tips to focus on yourself and be a better you]
#8 Make some personal goals and work toward them. Nothing can help you forget about catching feelings for someone quite like being busy. So be really, really busy. Make a bunch of new goals and start working toward them. This is a perfect way to make your life better while also forgetting about that person you don’t want to like.
#9 Remember why you can’t be together. You may just need a refresher. Why is it that you two can’t be together? There has to be a good reason if you’re going through all this trouble to stop liking them.
Reminding yourself of that thing daily can help you get rid of those feelings. When you’re constantly thinking about the consequences, it’ll be easier to get rid of those intense feelings for them. [Read: 16 types of guys you need to avoid dating]
#10 Ignore the feelings completely. You can’t always decide if you fall for someone or not, but you can decide what to do about those feelings. In this case, ignore them. Push those feelings aside and never act on any of your impulses – and there will be a lot of them.
When you like someone, you always want to be closer to them. You need to be consciously deciding to ignore all of those urges. When you do this enough, it’ll be as though you never caught feelings for them in the first place.