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Accidental Love – 12 Love Lessons from “Serendipity”

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Serendipity is one of those movies that tells you how accidental meetings can turn into true love. Find out what other lessons this movie can teach.

Fortunate accident. Pleasant surprise. Serendipity. This movie made us believe that things are happening for a reason, and that there are fortunate accidents in life. Jonathan (John Cusack) and Sarah (Kate Beckinsale) made us look for signs, made us believe in fate, and made us familiar with the word Serendipity.

What I learned from watching Serendipity

And like all romantic comedies, there are a couple of things that we can take with us after watching it. Here are some of the things I learned from watching Serendipity.

#1 Do not be dissuaded by a crazy mall full of frantic shoppers, doing last minute Christmas shopping. The opening scene of the movie follows a pair of black gloves that makes its way to a store shelving, where we first meet our main characters.

On a greater comparison, we are often met with turmoil like this, and what do we do? We run toward the opposite side. We shouldn’t. We never know what great things lay ahead. Take the risk. After all, if it’s worth having, it won’t come easy. And in this case, love didn’t come easy for our two main characters. [Read: 33 best places to meet eligible men]

#2 Yes. No. Yes. No. Maybe. Perhaps. No. I mean, Yes. Do you often find yourself changing your mind, especially when it comes to big decisions like moving out or where you want to work or if you are marrying the right person?  Like what Jonathan and Sarah exhibited in the movie, it is okay to change your mind. If you do not believe that you want something, it’s perfectly okay to take an alternate route.

In the movie, Jonathan and Sarah were, at some point, certain about their engagements. What bothered them was the chance meeting that they had a couple of years back, and they both wanted to check each other out before proceeding with their marriages.

And the funny thing was, even if they did not get to see each other again before their scheduled weddings, they both canceled it. And that’s why it is okay to change your mind. Do not get trapped in something that you are not certain about.

#3 Do you often find your mind flying into that direction several times a day? Do you often find yourself daydreaming about it? Thinking about it? Even if you try to squeeze it out of your mind? Then perhaps the reason why it’s bothering you so much is because you want it. Don’t fight the feeling.

This is what exactly happened to our two characters in Serendipity. They stopped fighting the urge to put the past behind, and started to look for something that can lead them back to each other.

#4 “I saw Sarah in the golf course, then she was trying to cut my hair, and then this guy kept singing Sarah.” Mythical signs. Random things that we think are reminding us of someone or something. We all believe in this, some are steadfast in their opposition toward signs and say that these are just coincidences. But whether or not we believe in signs, what matters is what we feel about it. If we have no existing feelings for a person named Sarah, we would not be affected by the many Sarahs that we may get in contact with.

We can choose to believe in signs, in fate or in destiny, that things happen because they are supposed to happen, but like what Sarah said in the movie, we still have control over what we do. [Read: 18 undeniable signs you’ve found “The One”]

#5 May the force not be with you. Sometimes, we tend to really push ourselves toward something because we want it badly, and we try everything in our power to get it or to get there. Do you ever feel like even though you have given it your everything, you still cannot get that one thing, no matter how hard you have tried? Then this might be the time that you need to stop and just not force things.

If you have exhausted all means in trying to get something, just like what Jonathan and Sarah did to get back to each other, then perhaps it was not really meant to be at that point in time. But look at what happened to them. When they were not looking, they finally found their way back to each other.

#6 Which brings us to our next point, sometimes, you find the things that you want when you are not looking. So contrary to being a go-getter and going after what you want, it is also okay to just wait. Especially when you have exhausted all means and have given a lot of effort, perhaps you just need to wait for the proper timing.

#7 You are allowed to be tired. And give up. Just like Jonathan who stopped his search, we are all human, and our emotions can only hold out for so long. Even our physical adeptness cannot contend with searching for a needle in a haystack called New York City.

Jonathan was not even sure if Sarah was still in New York, and he still searched anyway. But when you do give up on something, allow yourself ample recovery time to get back up on your feet again.

#8 The rationale behind looking for Sarah. If you remember what Jonathan told his best friend as to why he needed to go search for Sarah, he said something along the lines of this: Halley (the current fiancée) is like the Godfather Part II. And Sarah is the Godfather Part I. You have to see the original to understand and appreciate the sequel.

This can also be applicable to a majority of things in life. You cannot move forward to the next chapter without sealing what was left behind. It is something only we, humans, can understand.

#9 The last big blow. You know what they say before getting married or before diving into a serious relationship? Have that one last fling! You heard that right, it would not hurt to flirt and get involved in a harmless fling before getting your head and heart straight into just one and one individual alone.

#10 Let the sparks fly. There are only a few people in the world that you have sparks with, so keep them. You know how it is when you first talk to someone, and somehow, you zone out the world and zoom into them and there is no one else in the room?

You don’t always feel that way towards every person who picks you up in the bar or some random stranger you get to chat with in public places. There is only one person that makes you feel that way at a certain point in time, and when you meet this person, do not ever let them go… unless fate intervenes, of course. [Read: 20 signs of attraction in the first conversation]

#11 And if fate intervenes, leave it all to her then. If you are meant to meet again, you will meet again.

#12 But fate is not an exact science, it is a feeling. Serendipity is all about following your instincts, what your heart desires, and not what your head says. It was rash of both Jonathan and Sarah to suddenly stop their daily routines and look for each other, but it was what their feelings were telling them. And it proved to be very fulfilling because in the end, they were back in each other’s arms.

[Read: The 10 types of love you’ll experience in your life]

Movies like Serendipity pack what would normally happen in years into a 90 minute film. Everything is scripted and well thought of, even what the characters would wear. But it does not mean that it cannot be real.

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4 thoughts on “Accidental Love – 12 Love Lessons from “Serendipity””

  1. Winona says:

    Accidental love or following your heart when your head disagrees is something I probably need more of. I think that I am more of an over thinker and very guarded. I think I may have experienced something like Serendipity once or twice and I let it go and did not pursue it. I think I may have been afraid of I am not quite sure what. I let him go. The signs and actions of fate do seem like they can steer two people together. It is just whether you want to follow the signs through to the end.

  2. Liz says:

    I’ve never watched that movie but I can relate. We met at a bus stop after school. It came so unexpected- as a surprise. He was with his friend whom I also knew. Next few days I asked our mutual friend for his friends phone # and to my delight he replied,” Thats weird- he asked the same thing.” So we started going out and we’re going to complete 4 yrs this November. I know that feeling you get when you know he/shes the one. Its an unexplainable feeling- words cannot describe. You just know it from your heart’s core and you feel that they’re calling you. I feel like i got a treasure (him) because not only is he in love with me but hes loyal, caring, sweet, hes willing to sacrifice himself for me, he wants to be in pain when im in pain, we share everything together, we can’t stand being away from each other even if its a week long, hes very supportive, very enchanting, affectionate… Theres so much more… We can feel deep down that not even death will seperate us.

  3. Victor says:

    There really isn’t anything wrong with taking a step back and just letting love find you. It will eventually: there’s no need to make any real active approaches. Now, if you’re in a real rush to get something going, then by all means join every online dating site there is and go to the bar every Saturday night. You’re bound to find something, but you’re even more likely to find a whole lot of heartache. To me, it’s just not worth it anymore. I’m older, wiser, and looking to settle down. Someone will come when the time is right. I’m not going to force it anymore.

  4. Blue L. says:

    First of all, guys, let me tell you this movie is AMAZING! Like the best one I’ve seen in a while. Kate Beckinsale was a total sweetheart and how she believed in destiny was magical. I loved every second of it. I think that accidents happen in love. I was a believer in fate, but after the movie I know there is fate and there is my Mr. Right still waiting for me. Every girl should believe in that, because what’s the point in life if you don’t think that?

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