A writer isn’t born, but created out of experiences. No lack of subject matter, my life reads more like fiction than anything that could have been imagined in the head of a storyteller. While being in the throes of caregiving for my husband, who subsequently died at the age of 35 from pancreatic cancer, I found my voice telling the world of his challenges and documenting the fallout of those he left here after he was gone. Relationships are very complex things and don’t come with instruction manuals.
All we can do is to try to find consensus, ask for opinions and help from those around us, and always listen to what our inner voice tells us is right. We are all in it together for a reason, drawing strength from others is sometimes the only way to survive. I hope I help someone out there to not only survive but to thrive the way countless of strangers and loved ones have helped me. Relationships can be hard, heart breaking and desperate, but they are also the things that make our hearts soar, give our lives meaning and pull us through unimaginable circumstances as we make our way through this journey. As the love of my life has told me many times, peaks and valleys Jules, peaks and valleys.
New relationship anxiety is natural and normal, but it is not so much fun to deal with. Stop worrying about holding on and let go to enjoy the ride!
The ambivalent attachment style is just how it sounds! Ambivalent about the feelings and emotions of the person they are in a relationship with.
Pathology is a term used to describe disease causation or progression. A pathological liar is ill, and will make you ill too, if you let them.
What is gaslighting, you ask? It is a terrible tactic used by a narcissist to shut you down, bottom you out, and leave you questioning your sanity.
Everyone on earth feels nervous sometimes. It is human instinct. But, if it keeps you from living, learn how to get rid of nervousness.
“Good enough” implies an unrealistic measure of your worth. If you think, I’m not good enough , you likely put too many expectations on yourself.
We all behave differently when attracted to someone. If you don’t know how to tell if a woman is attracted to you, here are the biggest signs to look for.
Social mores aren’t social morals. Sometimes it is not only appropriate, but right to challenge them. Just be prepared if you do.
We form bonds with people to get our needs met in different ways, some healthy and others not so much. The avoidant attachment style might be your problem.
If someone tells you to check your privilege, don’t assume they say it derogatorily. If it is, then choose not to accept it if you are okay with you.